Holiday season for co parenting

So I came with an idea to split the day with my sons father because it will be our sons first holiday season. We got a letter in the mail to go by even and odd but I think for his first year we should split the day in half so he both get to experience his first with each family. I originally told him that I wanted Odd number years but then I started thinking that we could just split the day instead, and then go by even and odd. Do you think it’s a good idea? And do y’all think my child’s father will agree? He just start coming around and truthfully if it was up to me I wouldn’t let him get any holiday at all but a part of me is trying to be fair and still cordial with him.

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Dummy Dad Does NOTHINGGG.

Right So The Guy I’m having a Baby for is Eritrean 🇪🇷 & My baby is going too be Jamaican & Ethiopian. He’s been here for 10 years now Still A Dummy so too say I’m over it He can’t Bring any new ideas, Knowledge or Information too me He doesn’t do Research , Writing Just watching Bullshit in his own country But You came too a Country & Your Sitting Around doing nothing Nor Adapting How London Lads Move. Researching Jobs , Job Descriptions It’s Frustrating cause I bring the Energy & Vibes & I’m Over it. I had too Punch him in the face bc he snapped at me just for telling him look behind us at that Guy that just pulled up in a Car Right Behind me… saying “I don’t want too look” ??? Just Insecure. He does nothing Doesn’t Cook , doesn’t Gym. Show off his Skills NOTHINGGG. I don’t need him too Be there. I can 100% look after my Baby My Self.

Is it normal for people to think about divorce and question marriage

My husband is an avoidant. He is really good to our 3 yr old and me when we are not arguing, but goes to his old habits of being defensive, playing victim and dismissing me when i express something which leads to arguments that last for hours.

3x in the past he has said he feels like he doesn't know if this marriage is right for us and if its better we don't continue (after intense arguments and he snaps) sometimes it takes him a few hrs, other times a few days as he feels emotionally overwhelmed and depleted and then he comes back.

Is this normal? To question marriage like this and speak about divorce? Im soooo exhausted in this marriage he is such an amazing husband and so many people have told me how lucky i am seeing how he treats me and our child. But he refuses to stay consistent in therapy and open up to me until we have an intense argument and we have many arguments that take ages as he shuts me down and leaves me feeling like im talking to a wall.

This is f**ked up🤦🏻‍♀️

My man’s constant comments about my postpartum body got my head f**ked up. At 24 yo I just had my second son in June 16 and am already down from 150 to 118 pounds and I’m proud of that…but my man (who’s very into fitness) is constantly telling me to go to the gym or sending me workout videos grabbing my tummy fat, whenever the baby’s relaxing he tells me to do squats or sit ups and even sending me A.I pictures of my body edited to what “it could be” he doesn’t see how much it messes with me even tho I say that’s not nice to say. I’ve been going to the gym 3x a week the last 2 weeks and a 2 mile walk daily with the kids sense 6 weeks pp like I’m trying but sometimes I’m just so tired… I’ve always been a very petite person and I know this might sound stupid but I feel rly anxious to just try and get back to how I was. Idk what to say to him because at the end of the day we want the same thing I just want to look in the mirror and pretty again🤦🏻‍♀️

How do I do this?

Devastated newly single mom. Trying to cope with this sudden change. Was a sahm and my husband is now with another woman after us trying for a long time to work out our marriage. He lied and cheated and hid so many things and even cheated before we were married and I didn’t know til years later he admitted it. I still tried to work on it through our church support system and pastor and it ended up all worse when it became more complicated and we had to physically separate he found another woman within a month and is with her now. I am having no contact with him now but just last month was talking to him daily. And still trying to work. He told me he had slept with her and he wanted to and was no apologetic or remorseful. We are dealing with a difficult divorce and custody issues now too. I’m alone with my daughter and not much family around. It’s killing me everyday I cry so hard and am barely coping.

Can someone reassure me that it’s okay if my toddler stops eating for a few days?!

She’s got a cold and a cough right now. Quite mucus-y, but I regularly use saline and try and suck it out of her. She has no temp and is perfectly fine in herself, except she keeps waking herself up 20-30 mins into her nap from coughing/vomiting and then she can’t settle again, so I guess she’s probably more tired during the day.

She has plenty of wet diapers and will poo at least once a day. Logically, I know she must be fine, but it is driving me mad when she refuses all of her usual favourite foods 😮‍💨

NC State Fair

Hey mamas I have a crazy question I’ve never been to the state fair and I want to go this year or at least thinking about it….I have two toddlers and two teenagers…My older kids really want to go but I’m not sure if it’s a good idea going with the babies because I’ve heard it can get very packed and uncomfortable to walk around….Any advise??