Just over it..

Take a step back, realise that he’s busy justifying his actions to you and himself instead of respecting what you do and listening to how you feel. You can power through and your life will get easier, he’ll probably be nicer eventually because you’re less stressed and you may get over this. But he’ll always be the man who thought that everything that is weighing on you is less important than his own selfish needs. So if you’ve tried talking and he doesn’t give a shit I’d give up and consider an exit strategy. If he doesn’t appreciate the sacrifices you make then he doesn’t deserve you. At the very least please stop picking his shit up, or at least gather it and put it in a box for him for future reference. My husband works hard and his job is stressful but he’s endlessly grateful that I’m supporting him and his career and putting so much effort into our home and daughter(and now puppy 😂), he still does all our laundry, anything else needed and makes sure I get time for hobbies/to relax

I’m sorry you are going through this, it has unfortunately become normalized. Currently deep cleaning the bathroom to calm down because I am going through the same. Feel free to message me, vent if you need to. So far, we are in couples counseling and he is willing to work so that helps but it’s exhausting having to “teach him” and I’ve made it clear he is on thin ice. I don’t know the full picture, but as a stay at home mom I advise caution as this position puts us in a vulnerable financial spot. Gauge what is realistic for your wellbeing. Maybe your husband will be receptive to couples counseling. I’ve followed some of Abby eckle’s advice but take it with a grain of salt and assess your situation.