Partner treating me like sh*t during pregnancy. Any advice please.
My partner was sent to jail due to dv against me, the day he got arrested I found out I was pregnant. He went to jail for around 4 months and missed the first trimester in my pregnancy. He got released, he came straight back to my flat following his release. He came out of prison, no job, he lost his own place (he’s homeless), very little money. The first month was good he was emotionally supportive and loving. The second month I began getting fed up, I am paying for everything, from food shops to rent (literally everything), he will occasionally get me a takeaway. On top of doing everything financially by myself, I do most things around the flat myself, he’s like a child (he’s 35 and I am 21). I’m washing his dishes, washing his clothes and if I don’t do it, it won’t get done. And I am desperately trying to find work so I can survive. He also keeps saying he will get a pram for our child and hasn’t. Every week it’s “next week”. I have bought everything I can so far for our baby who’s due in January. I told him I am getting stressed. Bear in mind he’s seen me getting loans and struggling. I went on to say to him I cannot be providing for you and our son when he’s here. I told him he can’t live with me rent free. I get he’s just come out of prison but he’s not even trying to earn money/get a job. Ever since I had that conversation with him he’s been ignoring me, sleeping on the sofa, he’s completely stopped showing me affection. He even started shouting at me this morning called me an idiot and stupid. I just feel like shit, I feel so angry with myself for having a child with someone like him. I want him out of my flat, I do want him to leave my flat but I know he won’t leave, he has no where else to go. I’m so unsure of what to do. I do love him but I just can’t be around him anymore he just makes me want to cry 24/7. It’s like I’m living with a stranger. I also do not want any police involved because then social services will become involved.
Any advice would be really appreciated.
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You need to think about your child and your safety not social services .
Call the police and have him removed. Change your locks incase he made a key copy. Cut all contact , block him and anyone he knows on social media and your phone. Dont contact him when you give birth, focus on the new baby , heal and eventually you will get through it.
he was sent to jail before for DV, he’s lucky he’s got a second chance with you , he’s clearly not changed and not willing, please prioritise yours and baby’s safety
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