Do you think it’s safe?

Go for it. My son is almost seven months and I let him snuggle a small stuffed animal in bed sometimes.

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Hi Maureen, thank you. I thought it would be better than a comforter with the blanket, but it still makes me so anxious! Xx

At nine months he has enough control over his arms that he can pick things up and move them around. A stuffed monkey is light and shouldn’t be dangerous, because he can move it if he needs to

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Thank you, that’s what we thought, but we’ve never had to give him a comforter so just wanted to ease my anxiety! Xx

My daughter had one since she was 6 months I used it to take away the dummy. Heads up I have 4 of the same teddy to help me when it comes to washing it, and if she ever looses it xx

We have comforters/bears/blankets in our little one’s cot. People have had a bear / toy in cots for hundreds of years, it’s only recent advice that changes and tells us it’s wrong! Obviously within reason, but let’s be honest, a bear in a cot isn’t anything bad at all. Enjoy your little one and don’t worry x

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They say that because of the amount of cot deaths.

What’s that in relation to?

Just wondering if anyone knows where I can find a monkey like this one?

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It’s at Walmart

Probably amazon, target or Walmart would be my guess!

My little one sleeps with one tiny stuffie and one elephant that lights up and plays music. When she isnt in the crib she sleeps in bed with me and my husband.

You’re doing just fine. My MIL & SIL both tell me the same thing it’s good to be cautious but if it works for you and your LO go for it.

If your worried Take it off him when he’s settled, my daughter would only settle with a comforter round her face use to scare me so much but Once she was settled I moved it away from her xx

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Mine too! She has a little muslin lovie with satin trim and always pulls it over her face. I know she can breathe through it. That’s why I chose that particular one, but it still scares the bejesus out of me.

That's how my baby is! Something always has to be on or around her face. I literally always jump up and move everything once shes knocked out

He should be good! Anything that comforts him right now is your best bet. Just always give him a check every now and then while he’s sleeping :) you’ll get through this❤️

We were told a small comfort item is okay after 6 months.

He will be fine! I have 4 kids all have had stuffed animals/blankets since a really young age and they are all healthy. 17 yrs old 14 yrs 10 yrs old (in 4 days) and almost 19 months old.

We give our son a blanket and a stuff animal for comfort. We haven’t had any problems yet

My son has been sleeping with a stuffy and a blanket in his crib since like 4-5 months. 🤷🏻‍♀️ He’s 15 months now.

My little guy started this thing that he just HAS to have a blanket and his big stuffed dog to sleep - he's not even 8 months yet. I always check on him during naps and he's been fine, and I take the blanket out when he goes to bed for the night for my peace of mind. The stuffed animal has never caused problems and it's really nice now because my little man is teething and the doggy helps him go to sleep I'd just let them make their choice and just be vigilant about it. If they want a blanket, give them one but check on them to make sure they are safe.

I wouldn’t worry. My boy is 9 months and for the last 2/3 months goes to bed with 2 comforters. He tends to smush them in his face and right up to his nose xx

Once my babies know how to get a blanket off their face on their own, I figure it’s fine to have a toy in there. Nothing big or crazy. My 9 month old sleeps with a small blanket.

At 8 mo that he should be able to move away if he cannot breath. I think he's ok for that to be in there.

Sorry, but not safe. Nothing should be in the crib with baby, ever (besides a pacifier) Blankets and lovies shouldn’t be used for sleep until moved to a toddler bed at 15 months. It’s a suffocation hazard.

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That is facts though.

You have to weigh the pros and cons... they say your baby should only be placed on their back to sleep with nothing in the crib with them, yet, flat head syndrome and other head deformities have sky rocketed since that declaration was promoted in the 90’s. Every 10-20 years the most recommended things are changed. If your baby can turn his head and roll over to get away from the toy or item it should not be a problem. Be safe yes, but also do what is best for your child and if they can roll over it should not cause any problems

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Not even. My oldest two are 2y 11m aparart and by the time I had my 2nd they changed rubbing alcohol on the umbilical stump to help dry it and a waiting period for pacis. The uronic thing is, I feel my 3 kids after my oldest all had their stump fall off before it was ready, little spots of nlood would be on their clothes... Also waiting on introducing paci made my 2nd and 3rd not even want it.

Seriously. My sister had hers 2 years after I had mine and the pregnancy and baby recommendations had already changed! And my pediatrician said things none of my friends had ever heard. When I was a baby in the 80s it was best to lay kids on their stomachs. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I believe they are making improvements but sometimes moms know best.

I know this technically isn’t safe but my son likes to sleep with his boppy pillow. I guess if feels like I’m still there snuggling him. He’s gotten to the point like yesterday to where he doesn’t need it anymore but I still give him his blankets cause his dad just HAS to have the ceiling fan on

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Mine had reflux and the boppy was the only way he would sleep, then he got used to it and we got too scared to remove it. I was told that if the baby is old and strong enough to push away from air obstructions you're fine. Especially if they're in the room with you.

Mines had GERD too

If he roll over and move around so if he doesn’t like something believe me he will move it away from him you’re fine it’s just a really young little babies that don’t have the muscle control and strength to move out of the way that they can get suffocated very easily because of the fact that they can’t move so no worries mama

My 9 month old cosleeps and sleeps in her crib. She has a stuffed bee in her crib, and she snuggles with me in bed. I think babies tell us what they need. Trust your gut, momma. I’d say as long as his crib is big enough that he can roll or scoot away, then it’s fine. If he’s in a smaller bed, where he might get jammed up against it easily, I’d maybe reconsider.

From birth: I used a monitor which was jammed in the corner and attached to a crib post (bar), a thin receiving blanket, and I had the mesh bumpers. Stuffed animals 🧸 only went in while I was there and both my kids were awake to play with.

If he can roll over I wouldn’t worry about a monkey like that.

SIDs is a real thing so you do have to be careful and aware. I think the toy you showed may be fine. Personally what I would consider is ok babys 8mnths. Does your baby hold his head up well even when exhausted or during a developmental leap? Can he roll over well?

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As a side note...The other thing is, what's his personality like. Some babies have very strong personalities and will always let you know loud and clear if something is wrong. Other babies can be so mellow they can even be content to starve (to a certain level). These are very extreme examples and then theres in between. It's not that SIDs risk is obsolete with a stronger personality but just keep in mind if your baby's at the opposite extreme you want to be extra careful with these babies. I dont know your baby or the rest of his sleep conditions well but I think I'd say in his case I'd let him have the toy at night and as a comfort during the day as sounds like he needs that right now most and SIDS may not be as much of an issue for him now. I'd personally just go check on him through the night a few times least first week to see how he sleeps with it. If you see hes always sleeping with his bk to the toy or something it may also give u peace of mind.

Its true sids is real i have 2 brothers that died from it but it wasnt from having a stuffed animal in the crib. And to be clear i definitely watched my kids like a stalker because of my brothers passing from sids. I always made sure there was nothing by their mouth or face at night. I also checked on them non stop, and every little sound the baby monitor made i was in their room

My kids had a light blanket and a stuffed animal with them

Unpopular opinion... as a CPS worker for 4.5 years, I'd say no. This toy doesn't follow safe sleep, which is alone, placed on their back, and in a crib or pack and play, with a firm fitting sheet. Alone meaning no blankets, pillows, or toys. Until 12m old. I've seen wayyyyy to many child deaths :( not worth it

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I thought pack and plays were no longer allowed either for cps standards? Just strictly cribs.

Oh and I can just imagine the horrible things you have seen. I’m sry and I can only think that you must be a very strong person. I know I cld never handle seeing some of the horrific things ppl do to their children.

People going mad about this yet use nests and sleeppods and sleepyheads 🤦‍♀️😱

Once he falls to slerp take it out.

What I always do in these “is it safe/is it unsafe” situations is look into WHY the practice or the item is not recommended. Daily baths are not recommended for newborns because their skin is sensitive and they don’t actually need to be cleaned. But will it cause them harm? Probably not. Blankets and stuffies in the crib are not recommended in a four sided sleep space because there are four times as many chances that the child, the toy, and the wall of the sleep space could be lined up in a way that prevents breathing- at least that’s my understanding. But either way, that’s what I do- hope this perspective helps a little! I know how stressful it feels when the only thing you feel works is the one thing people say not to do! 💕

I would take it away once he falls asleep. Better to take the safe sleep recommendations to heart.

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I second this. Whatever works is key! As long as baby is safe so yeah take it out as soon as baby is asleep

My child has stuffies And his doctor said ok to small stuffies at 6 months 🤷‍♀️

My baby sleeps with me in my bed (husband too) with blankets and pillows. His pack and play has a pillow a nice soft blanket to sleep on and also a cozy blanket to cover him and also with 2 little stuffed animals near his feet. He Is nice and cozy at all times and he sleeps very well

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My kids were the same way in their crib their " big stuffies" at their feet a pillow and blanket ( blanket never went above their arm pits even when covering their arms it was never by their face and their "small stuffie" was always at their wast but in reach of their hand or arm but never near their face

Me and my mom always kept an eye on my kids we were always in and out along with baby monitors on at all times

It depends you know your kid better than anyone. My daughter has slept with me from day one and when she sleeps in her crib it’s with pillows blankets and stuffies! But I know my daughter I’ve watched her sleep! If something is covering her face or blocking her breathing she wakes up and moves. She’s a wild sleeper so she moves from her back to side to tummy. I have no worries when it comes to her sleeping with stuff. If you’re instincts are worried about it I wouldn’t and if they are fine about it go ahead. You’re her mom you’d know better than any of us whether or not she’s ready.

“You know your kid”, “go with your gut”, “my kid did it and was fine”,.. if that is your answer to anything, baby’s wouldn’t die.. But they do. Safety first.

Nothing is safe in a babys crib except a fitted sheet and a baby in a sleep sack. Babies have died from animals and blankets in their sleeping space.

Once he’s fall asleep, take the monkey out. I normally pull it it away a little few times until he fall asleep i take it away. And attach to his bassinet/cot

9 months is reeeeeeaaaaally late on the 'safe sleeping' racket. Like risk drastically drops off after 3 months and again after 6. Risk of your childs death is astronomically higher every time you put them in the car. Sometimes, you just have to do a risk assessment, shrug, and get some fucking sleep. But I say that as someone who has my 4 month old sleeping in the other room with a blanket like an absolute monster.

My little one I'll only sleep with something over her face so I stay with her until she falls asleep and then I take it away

That monkey stuffie is so cute!! Where is it from?

I decided to strike a balance by purchasing a stuffed animal that came with a latch to hook onto the crib.

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Thats a good way to

We have two stuffed animals and she shoves them allllll the way at the end of the crib on the opposite side of where she sleeps. We only leave them there bc sometimes it takes her a bit to go back to sleep and she plays with them until she falls asleep which doesn’t take too long and thats when she sleeps cuddling them. Or she plays with them until we come into get her if shes up from a nap. But shes also one now. We didnt put anything in there til after she started walking so 7 ish months

You know your baby, mama! Sometimes you just have to weigh the risks, and decide which choice you're most comfortable with. Like someone else mentioned though, at 9 months the risks are much lower than with younger babies. Use your best judgement, every baby is different. If I were in your shoes I'd leave the monkey with the baby so you can both get some sleep though 🙂

My girl has slept with her Mickey Mouse since 8 months! She’s 11 months now! I think it’s completely fine! Most babies after 6/7 months can move things away from their face! It’s up to you mama! Whatever works for you do it!

My little girl sleeps with her monkey and pooh bear (a comforter little blanket thing) and shes never had an issue but when we first let her have him I'd move him out the crib and just gradually let him stay in! Since possibly 6 months shes now a year... she could roll both ways and support her head when we started letting her have them in with her! If it's working just keep an eye on him

I think you are okay bc he can lift and move his head. Both mine 24 months/11 months slept with stuffed animal lovies at that age 😀

You can try giving him chamomile. It helps.

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My pediatrician told me not to give my little on chamomile tea before a year. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’d just confirm with your pediatrician.

Anida, do you do this for teething? My LO (6 month is teething) and it’s awful for him. I tried chamomile last night not even 1 oz and it seemed to help but I’m nervous on how much he can have ... I read it can be 2-3oz but being a breastfeeding mom I want his main nutrition to be BM with side solids. What are everyone’s thoughts ok chamomile? Also is Chamomile and lavender ok for LO?

I let my daughter have something in her crib (at 9.5 months) and watched to make sure she would shove her face in it, she was good but I kept checking constantly for a week, now I'm confident enough to leave it in there (although I check the camera more than I used to)

I'm sure it would be absolutely fine

My daughter has slept with her stuffed cat from 6 months on. She’s 16 months now. We also bed share. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes my daugther has comforters in her cot