Vasectomy vs Tubal Ligation

My husband and I don’t want any more kids so I asked him if he would get a vasectomy. He said no way. I started taking birth control and it’s made me gain weight since baby was born so I tried talking to him again about it and he basically said nope, you stay on birth control. I told him I’ve gained weight and that’s something that happens with birth control and he said “So just don’t gain weight. Eat less.” The fucking nerve. I don’t even eat a lot and I don’t have time to go to the gym, I stay home and take care of our two kids under two. I don’t have anybody who can watch them while i go work out. I told him this and he said “then get your tubes tied” even though he knows it’s a bigger surgery, I’ve told him before. I don’t want an IUD because of the hormones, my OB was very much against me getting the copper IUD as well because of the side effects. He won’t use a condom, it doesn’t feel good for either of us. Am I overreacting or is he being an asshole? He says he doesn’t like he idea of a vasectomy and he won’t get one. Like he doesn’t give a damn about what happens to my already broken postpartum body as long as he doesn’t have to sacrifice anything.

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He’s being a complete asshole.. just cut his dick off... they take a freaking day to recover.. we push a baby out do all this shit it’s his turn...

Hold out on him till he gets it

Don't have sex or get your tubes tied. Take control over your own sexual health. I know a vasectomy is a lot less of an invasive procedure but consider it.
I wouldn't force or pressure my partner into a procedure that he does not want to do. If you both don't want to do it then it's either condoms or stay on birth control. Or not have sex 🤷

I don't know why a vasectomy is so taboo. I got a tubal during both because we discussed not having anymore kids. Withholding sex is going to last how long? It's unrealistic. I hoped he'd do his part but he didn't want to. I got the tubal FOR ME. I don't want to carry another baby and go through the changes. I DON'T want the late nights again, (currently 3:43 am and baby is wide awoke while Daddy is snoring). I hated both control, this was the best option for me. Wish you the best

I can see why you don't want to procreate further with such an inconsiderate dink. He "wont use condoms" and doesn't care that your pumping your body full of hormones. Because his fragile masculinity would be ruined if he gets a simple out patient procedure involving his balls?

Have you tried the pull out method?

Just from an experience point of view my husband went and had a vasectomy as I had issues with my pregnancies. I think men think of it as a worse procedure than it is. My hubby was laid up on the couch for a day and the next day back at work as a mechanic you are told to rest for longer than a day but he honestly said it wasn't as bad as he had thought it would be and he's glad he had it done.x

Ha! I didn’t give my husband a choice! I made the appointment took him to the appointment and bam out patient procedure! Wasn’t bad at all for him! And he is fine and still a dam man! Lol

Sorry but your man sounds like a fucking dick. I don't get how a guy can just sit back and expect his woman to make all the sacrifices.

My dad got a vasectomy after I was born because my mom couldn't handle birth control anymore. It's way cheaper and invasive and reversible! Do what is best for your family and if he never comes around to a vasectomy, I would get your tubes tied personally. Maybe when he sees how much it costs (in the US) he will regret it or change his mind before you get it.

You should both come to a compromise here, maybe try a different pill that wont make you gain, if that is an issue, but just as it is your right to say you do not want to use birth control or you do not want to get your tubes tied, its absolutely his right to say he doesnt want a vasectomy. I find it insane how people would say to deny your partner sex until he gets it done, try turning the tables, if he said I wont have sex with you until you have your tubes tied, everyone would be calling him an asshole. What about the nuva ring? I've used that and had no weight gain and no issues with it.

I am glad he is doing this for you truly, trust me I totally understand where you're coming from. I wish you the best ❤

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