Hair advice please

So this is my daughters hair. it’s a mix between her dads hair and my hair. He’s Jamaican, I’m Hispanic. For years I’ve been trying to deal with her hair. I’ve tried Shea moisture brand, Cantu brand and other brands. Nothing works. I could brush her hair for hours and it will never untangle. Her hair is so dry, she could stand under the shower and her hair will not absorb any water.

I’ve heard of using coconut oil. But do I use pure coconut oil or is there a specific brand??

I’ve also braided her whole head before but it always ruins after a week. What are the best products I can use that will keep her braids firmly in place?

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My friend uses refined coconut oil, grape seed oil and almond oil for her hair and she swears by it!

Look up the curly girl method- it’ll help with her hair. My sister is a curl specialist (@curlygallal on Instagram so there is some content there if you’re in Instagram). The main things to remember is stay away from shampoos with silicone and sulfates, get a good deep conditioner (use once a week) and leave in conditioner. Jamaican black castor oil is also great for curly hair xx

There are so many resources on youtube.

I used a soft and free brand for Afro hair, or hair conditioner. 👍🏽 softens it enough to comb it. 😊 My boys have Afro hair,

My daughter has similar hair we have always used pink oil!

I don’t have any advice for you. Just wanted to say I that I love her hair! 😄

Thank you so much everyone for the information and advice!! 💞💞 I will definitely take every advice into consideration and apply it towards my daughters hair!! I have to try anything to get her to at least not hate having her hair brushed or styled because of how dry it it ☹️. I’ll try to get the different products everyone mentioned and hopefully I can find one that will work perfectly for her hair. Thank you!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

You need to make sure you wet her hair every single day, use leave in conditioner, and also put oil in it every single day!!! My hair is the same way!

Check out naptural85 on YouTube. She has a great collection of videos that include her daughter.

You just need a proper regimen and technique that includes daily moisturizing if it’s not in a protective style, weekly deep conditioning and proper detanglingn technique

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Try MIELLE !!! It will work

Can you go online and take a quiz on what her hair type is? From there we can better advise you on product. I'm a 3c and she looks close to that

There is a coconut oil leave in conditioner spray I got at Walmart it’s awesome, easy to use and great for dry hair

I have super curly hair, and this post is just a story of my life.
A couple of things that I have found work really well for me. When washing my hair I only ever condition it twice and don’t shampoo it, shampoo strips moisture from curly hair. I found that John Freda frizz ease conditioner works really well for me. And once I wash my hair when it’s still soaking I put through hair oil and also leave in conditioner:)

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Is it just me?

I’m 35. I have a 21 month old and i’m 5 months pregnant. I have no friends. Everyone has either drifted away or ghosted me. I don’t know what i’ve done but i’m so lonely now. My best friend of 20 years has ghosted me and i’m heartbroken. I’ve tried to reach out to other friends but never get anywhere. I don’t know how to make new friends. I honestly just feel so alone.

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️