What would you do?
If your man provided for you and the family eg. Paid the rent/mortgage, all the bills, food shop, children's things/activities, and gave you some money to pay for your needs, would you choose to go out to work or would you be a stay at home mum?
Specifically to mums with children under the age of 5.
Before having children, my partner told me it would be totally up to me if I wanted to return to work after having children but I didn't have to if I didn't want to/wasn't ready. I went back after maternity leave but I missed my child and quit my job to stay home. My partner takes care of everything financially so I am currently a SAHM until further notice.
I'm just curious to know what other mums would choose?
Bad friendships after baby
Iāve had a long distance friendship since 2008 (met at a university study abroad program) and weāve visited each other at least once a year, traveled together, she met my entire family. We were close. She was a bridesmaid at my wedding 4 years ago. She was one of the first I told I was pregnant.
I invited her to my baby shower, which she couldnāt make, but she said she sent us a gift. I never received anything, which was fine (I honestly didnāt even realize it because life is chaotic a month before your due date).
When my son was born, we posted an announcement on Instagram which she commented ācongrats guys!ā And I never heard back from her.
I sent her a photo of us on Christmas to say merry Christmas. I texted her on her birthday months later, she text me on my birthday. But thatās it. She has never once asked how Iām adjusting to mom life or how my son is doing.
Am I being petty for refusing to reach out to her after all this? Thereās been zero communication, even on social media. I donāt understand what changed besides me having a kid, or not thanking her for this gift she supposedly sent. Iāve just been super hurt that my entire world has changed with a baby, and my supposed best friend ghosted me.