New Mom- WAKE UP CALL

Sooo this post isn’t really for gaining advice but actually confirming that I’m not alone.
Did anyone else know, prior to having a baby, how many things we’d actually go through?!
I mean, people told me “you’ll never sleep again” (true) and they told me their labor and delivery stories but DAMN!
What about—
“she may have trouble with certain formulas” (I thought all babies ate the same)
“There will be sleep regressions” (that’s a thing??)
“She may cry for 2 hours straight” (for what though?)
“You may not produce enough milk to breastfeed” (GREATTT)
“Overtired, overstimulated” (okay, and how do I balance that??)
“Wake windows” (What the hell does that even mean?)
“Sleep sacks” (I put my baby in a sack?! 😂)
“They May have acid reflux” (babies can have that?)
“She’ll be happy one day and unable to soothe the next” (HELPPP)
“Colic” (don’t know what that is and apparently neither does anyone else)
“No naps one day and sleeping all day the next” (oh okay, girl)
“Probiotics, gripe water” (those are things?!)

I LOVE my babe so much, but again, DAMN! These poor little babes go through more than I ever thought 😅

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Hahaha amen so true.

My favorite was when I was pregnant ‘you’ll never remember life before baby.’

Uhh... there are days where I fully remember and LONG for a day before baby. Not that I don’t love my son but no responsibility, no mouth to feed, no poopy diapers .. sounds amazing. Haha

Omg why is this so true!!! I love my little more than life itself but some sleep and quiet sounds to die for🤣

I completely agree with that. I have a 7month old and I'm still waiting to get my sleep 😂 you love them more than anything but they are such confusing little beings at times

Seriously! I knew it'd be tiring to entertain, feed, clean, etc but not THIS exhausting! Also each baby has such a different personality already. So little but have so many preferences and demands!

Your post is so hilarious! You nailed it!! Made me laugh! Thanks!

So true.

I’ve never called our dr as much as I have done in the 10 days my baby’s been here 😫 mega spit up and now she seems to have a cold 🤧 I’m constantly blaming myself for everything!

Same here, sometimes I catch myself day dreaming of when I used to have a day off from work and spend the whole day in my pjs ordering food from Uber eats and binge watching the whole day without a single care in the world 🌎 I love my son so freakin much but my god sometimes he’s more work than even the 18 hour shift I did once as a line cook 👩🏻‍🍳

Lol this made me laugh. I feel you!!!

Colic is trapped wind! Bloody awful thing for a baby to suffer from x

This made me laugh out loud and wake up my napping baby 😭 But yesss to all of it, I feel so seen!

I get so angry every time I see a birth portrayed on TV now. Oh ok, her water’s going to break and miraculously the baby’s just gonna come out with like 2 pushes an hour later. Cool, cool.

No one told me I’d be waking up in puddles of milk and having major night sweats with flu like symptoms man that was a shocker 😂
Luckily I didn’t have any of that with my second

Girl yes. My son is 6mo old now. First 3 months was colic AND acid reflux, colic is gone but reflux is controlled by meds now. Currently dealing with some sleep regression, dropping a nap and teething 😭 my pediatrician gives his parents his home number and I swear he knew my number by the first month lol.

It’s a trap! That was the first thing I learned when I had my son. Everyone talks about this glow and how it’s awesome and people don’t talk about the hormones and feels and struggle to keep this tiny human that has been pretty safe in your body for 9 months and now in this world alive.
I did see what to expect when your expecting which shows a few different versions of pregnancy but still it’s hard and I feel all of this. Oh and not to mention what you did with one kid probably won’t work on another so just when you thought you had a good thing and knew what you were doing they said f that try again.

Seeing as though I'm a new mother (16 weeks) I have no other choice but to look forward to these wonderful nightmares lol

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When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

i just want someone to talk to😔😔😔😔

when things get hard i have nothing not any support from my partner im convinced he doesn’t even love me anymore but thats another story
I have a 3 yo and a 2yo that are in bed sleeping only just now. I have a 1 yo that’s been sleeping from 8 o’clock to 10 o’clock. I just gave her her milk and she would’ve gone back to sleep if it wasn’t that
I lost her dummy earlier in the day when I went out
so now she won’t go back to sleep and she won’t accept any of the other dummy’s i have!😔😔and it’s 10 o’clock and I’m gonna be up until 3 o’clock with her and when she does want to go to sleep i won’t have any dummy to give her she will accept and she won’t sleep without it i just wanna cry 😔i have nobody to talk to and i feel so alone i get no support from anybody i’m so tired and i don’t feel well to top it off😔

Not drinking

I’m going crazy. Baby born at 2.26kg. Slow to put on weight. This last week hasn’t put on any. Been trying to feed him at night and he’s not interested at all. Fast asleep. During day he will have 5 minute gulps and that’s it. He don’t cry for milk. I’ve got to keep offering to him. I try to offer it every hour but I don’t know what I’m doing. HV said nutrition comes after 5 minutes so I should pump first and then give him. I find it so hard. I tried to pump one boob nothing came. The other abit came. Tried giving him express he’s not interested in that too. Sometimes he will go for a longer a feed but not long at all. He’s 4 months and is currently 5.46kg. I have no family or friend support here and wish I had a cook, cleaner and nanny to help with everything so I can concentrate on the little one. I don’t know what’s wrong with him but I’m loosing it. It doesn’t help that my also stressed generally about my relationship and life circumstances. Any advice that will work. Any comfort you can give. I’m fed up. Is this regression - not feeding. He’s fast fast asleep. I’ve been trying to push the nipple in but that mouth is closed shut. I took some clothes off. Changed his nappy but he’s still asleep. Please help

Sleeping bag

8 week old in sleeping bag for first time as big enough! Do you feed your child in the night whilst in the sleeping bag or taken them out, feed then transfer back to sleeping bag before putting down?

Has anyone died their kids hair a fun color and have any recommendations for kid friendly hair dye that actually works and stays in the hair for a bit? 👀👀👀

She has 3b brown hair and wants kpop demon hunter purple