Postpartum Depression Advice Please

I am about 9 weeks Postpartum and my depression has gotten out of hand. At this point I feel absolutely useless, every time my son cries I get so overwhelmed it just triggers him. Ofcourse there are other things in my life that are bothering me and that's something I'll never be able to change. But every little thing bothers me, I get so irritated so fast and I can't help but cry. There are people in my life that judge me Formula feeding my son, or how much he weighs, which was 8lb 4 oz at birth. But because he is not small, and I'm not breastfeeding "I don't have it as bad" I went through 36 hours of labor then ended up have a C-Section. My son went straight to the NICU for 16 hours being feed through a tube, then on a bottle. I would just LOVE some advice on just how to cope and not let others negative thoughts get in. THANK YOU!

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I’m so sorry! For me, getting out and going for walks has really helped my mental health! If there is anyone that can help and watch baby while you go have some “me time,” that’s always a good thing too! You’re doing great, mama.

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I’m struggling with postpartum depression some days are good and some days are bad. Go out and tell yourself you’re doing a great job. You’re baby is fed and well taken care of. Don’t Be hard on yourself. I recommend postpartum mood support vitamins it helps for me.

I'm so sorry you're experiencing this! Im Experiencing anxiety and depression during pregnancy. There are people out there to help you! Have you heard of Post Partum Support International? They are an organization that is specific to postpartum! I found resources through here and its changed my life! I'm on meds and going through therapy. It been so helpful for me! Please look them up!

And I'm sorry you're being judged for not breastfeeding. That is your choice and people should ne ashamed for ridiculing you. It's not okay! I'm not breastfeeding either, for personal reasons and your baby will be totally great with formula! People just need to mind their business! Let me know if you need help finding resources near you!

Talk to your OBGYN or PCP about your feelings, thoughts, and actions! Build your mom tribe! See if there are any postpartum groups that meet in your area (ours is virtual)! Find that one friend to confide in! PRAY! & most of all know that you are not alone even when you feel alone! Hang in there mama postpartum can be hard but you are strong!

GIRLFRIEND!!!! I am the poster mom of PPD and PP anxiety. I’ve been on all the meds and I finally found the most wonderful doctor in waynesboro! I formula fed my son and was judged all the time. He was 8 lb 5 oz at birth and now he is 3 and weight 47 lbs and is in 6t clothes and a size 11 shoe. He is almost the exact same size as my (almost) SIX year old daughter. Do you mind me asking who your OBGYN is? My best suggestion is to call your doctor and be totally honest about how you are feeling. They really do want to help. You’re only 9 weeks in. New babies come with huge learning curves. Is he fussy for no parent reason? Have you tried changing formulas? My son has been a beast since he exited my womb. My kids are 5 and 3 and I STILL sleep when the kid’s nap. I have to because I still suffer from severe PPD. Please reach out if you need any advice! 💗💗💗💗💗

You need a break...do you have someone that can watch the baby?my first pregnancy I was so dark ...I cried a lot...after I gave birth I felt dead inside like I lost a part of me...I lost myself...meditating,Bootcamp and my mom helped me a lot. As for the people judging...ignore them cut them off when they start going on about what they think is best...this is your journey not theirs...go get an evil eye charm😜deflect all negativity...🖤this mom thing...it’s really hard...and your doing great

First! Don't let how big your baby was at birth bother you. My son was 8 pounds 5 ounces and my in laws joked about his weight and my weight the day I came home from the hospital. It sounds like you had a rough delivery and only you know what your body went through, but as long as your baby is happy and healthy you should be happy about that.
With getting overwhelmed and triggered I totally feel you!! Anytime my little man starts to cry I'm get so much anxiety I just want to escape.
Finding time to meditate 10 minutes a day, going for walks in the early morning I find helps because it puts him to sleep and I feel like I can really control that one moment or just sitting in a quiet space while he naps with a cup of tea or coffee helps me. There is absolutely nothing wrong with formula feeding your baby. Whether you are a breastfeeding mom or a formula mom we still need to stick together. My child is formula fed and so healthy.
Make sure you have a support person you can really talk to and talk to your OBGYN.

Aww I’m sorry your experiencing this but i totally get it I went through it to. I found ways to cope by taking time for myself and doing some self care like a face mask eat my fav food while watching my fav show and even went for walks it helped

I am sorry you’re going through this. I am also struggling with PPD and major anxiety. For me medication, therapy, and meditation help me. I am also not BF, and I didn’t get guilt from anyone except myself. But then I kept reminding myself that fed is best and that she is happy and healthy and that’s all that matters! My baby crying hard makes me shut down too, I think that’s normal because we want to be able to soothe them. My daughter was 9lb 6oz when she was born, she lost weight in the beginning though. If you ever want to talk shoot me a message!

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Help! First time mum -

I have a 4 month old and now all of a sudden when he’s been asleep for 1hr30/2hrs he will wake up screaming (high pitched) I’ve tried winding him sometimes that helps, I’ve tried bicycle legs & bringing his knees up but that doesn’t seem to help but he brings his knees up himself sometimes but nothing happens. I’ve noticed since the 4 month mark he has started to struggle passing wind downwards! Any tips?

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

Feeds

How many times a night are your little ones getting up? My daughter is every 90-110 minutes. I am absolutely exhausted and don’t know how much more I can cope

Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time