Grieving During Pregnancy

I haven't been there, but just wanted to say sorry for your loss. Sending you strength and best wishes xx

My situation is definitely not the same, but my pregnancy was high risk and there were a few complications that meant my baby might not make it to term or might be born and not make it very long. I didn’t know how other people could think about ANYTHING else. It was overwhelming. I realized that to take care of me and my family I needed to worry about my own mental health. If you haven’t already, please consider talking to a professional. It can be SUCH a relief to lay it all out for someone who you don’t have to worry about worrying about you (if that makes sense). You can lay it bare. I also used a focused breathing/meditation app. It helped calm my brain and my emotions. I used the insight timer app and read about meditation (thich nhat hanh). It helped a lot. Mama I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I wish you positive and healing vibes and hope your pain eases as much as it can. Message me anytime.

Hi Ginny. I am so sorry for your loss. Although I wasn’t pregnant when it happened, my long time boyfriend passed away almost 5 years ago. It completely changed me. I couldn’t imagine going through that grief while pregnant. It’s really tough. Keep your head up and focus on the beautiful baby. Please don’t hesitate to message me if you need to talk. 💕

My prayers go up for you during this difficult time. Find someone to talk to, or a grieving group might help.

I’m so sorry, please know you have my prayers. ❤️

I’m so sorry for your loss. 💗

Im so so sorry, I lost my dad back in august at 5 months pregnant..completely random. I have never felt such sadness and pain like I did that day. It just taught me how precious & fragile our lives are. I hope youre doing ok, my thoughts and prayers go to you

I’m sorry for your loss hunny, I really can’t imagine what you’re going through and whilst pregnant as well! Grief is one of the hardest things to deal with and you’re bound to be full of pregnancy hormones too, Have you any support? Grief counselling for you whilst you’re going through this?
Just remember, you’re carrying a part of your bf inside, your little one and that’s a beautiful thing!
I really hope you’re ok and if you need to talk, about anything without judgement, just msg me x

I lost my mum the same day I found out I was pregnant, never even got to tell her 😣

If you ever need to talk I’m here. I havnt lost anyone whilst pregnant but I lost my 2 brothers and my dad in the space of two years... it may seem like your not going to get over this but your stronger than you think lovely. Please reach out if you need to talk and remember your never alone ❤️

You are a strong woman . I can’t imagine what you are going through😞. Grief comes in waves, which I know so well as I lost my dad 6 months ago. Some days you will be fine and others the grief just takes over. Keep strong and you are in my thoughts 🤗

Omgosh this made me cry Im so sorry you're going through this. I lost my dad suddenly 2 years ago and never felt pain like it so I know how you feel. remember to greive at your own pace, people can make you feel like after a certain amount of time you should be 'better now', ignore them and if you need to cry then let it all out whenever you need to and take time out when you need to. I'm here if you want to talk to anyone ❤ sending you love and big hugs xxx

I’m not sure if you are religious or not but if so pray, pray, pray!! And if you are not and are open to prayer and finding God then pray! I truly believe no one goes through anything more then they can handle. As many have said, I am truly sorry for your loss and can’t imagine what that is like with all the other emotions and things going on that life throws at you!
Personally I didn’t have any one pass away whilst I was preggo but I had postpartum depression from my second and ended up pregnant with my third (a “surprise”) and had postpartum depression through my pregnancy with many other emotions (many negative as we were not prepared) as well and again or continued after. I wish I would have been able to tell someone and especially my doctor! Don’t hesitate to tell someone and I believe a very important person to include is your doctor as they care about your health and mental health is included in that. I send prayers and good vibes!! 😇😎

I am so sorry. May you have the strength to forbear this trying times 🥺🙏🏾

Im so sorry for your loss! 😢

So sorry to hear this. X

I'm so sorry for your loss, I cant imagine how you must be feeling!

When I found out I was pregnant my Grandad became extremely poorly and ended up with kidney failure and we had to care for him 24/7 he lasted 4 weeks but within this 4 weeks he needed so much care and was so emotionally, physically and mentally draining but I wouldnt of changed it and it was so hard and also had pregnancy complications too.. he passed away when I was 20 weeks pregnant and now I'm about to go in and have an induction tomorrow at 41+3 xxx

Sorry for your loss! Stay strong! Prayers for you and baby

I’m still grieving my stillborn and pregnant with my second. Our grief is different, but it is tough.

Make sure you have a tribe around you who you can talk to any time. Even just having someone sat there while you cry makes all the difference. Give ‘your people’ roles and responsibilities so you know you always have someone there.

Keep focusing on the gift you’ve been given, and all the love and joy you have coming your way. I feel I owe it to my baby to be happy and excited, even though it’s bloody hard - but visualising can help.

Try hypnotherapy to help you manage any sad/negative thoughts that might be recurring. You might find some great tactics to help control it.

Most of all, just grieve the way that feels right for you and be kind to yourself. Let it all out when you need to. And don’t be hard on yourself when you are feeling low. Try counselling, I’m sure your midwife can refer you to someone.

Sending you lots of strength. Message me if you fancy a chat x

I appreciate your responses! I am talking to a counselor every week and have started to work with a group that specializes in PTSD trauma. I have all the markers of PTSD because of how sudden this was and how I’ve been managing. I even went to a medium. Anything that might make me feel better. It is hard not having him here to help run interference with the grandparents...I feel like I’m having a communal baby because of how much grief everyone has been experiencing. This baby is the first grandchild for his parents and we are from a small town so I have a ton of people that are anticipating this birth and having a piece of Ben. I have recently stopped maintaining contact with so many people and I have truly felt better. It has provided me space to engage with this baby more. On top of this-my beloved basset hound is dying. Also, I have been dealing with a 2 vessel umbilical cord, which I thankfully found out has led to 0 complications yesterday. A whole lot of WTF moments in my life

Oh wow I’m sorry for your loss especially during this time. Sending u lots of love strength and prayers 🙏🏾❤️ x

I am so sorry for your loss, sending prayers to you and your baby. Hope you find strength during this difficult time. 🙏🙏

I’m so sorry for your loss 😓❤️

Sending you love and strength 💛💪🏽 bless you and this tough time 🙏🏽✨ keep doing what’s best for you 💛

I lost my dog when I found out I was pregnant in January and turns out my baby had the same due date as my dogs birthday. Try and stay strong for your baby and I'm so sorry to hear this! X

Sending you positive vibes to you and your baby. You will overcome this. You will see brighter days. You will smile again. You are strong. Just take one day at a time & know that this is part of your journey and it won’t stay dark forever

I lost my brother 3 weeks before I gave birth. He sadly took his own life so was a shock passing. I was extremely close to my brother & it’s been 7 weeks today and am still struggling with his loss massively. I really feel for you as one thing I have found is no help for mums to be who have lost a loved one during pregnancy. These little babies are very resilient thou, I literally got home from my brothers funeral and labour started. My son knew it was safe to enter the world! Just make sure you are looking after yourself, getting extra checks is recommended. Also inform all medical staff of your situation. They have a duty of care to you not just your baby! If you ever need to talk please message xxx

Firstly, I am so sorry for your loss 💗
Secondly, give yourself time to grieve be kind to yourself your going through so much right now. Pregnancy can be difficult enough. Surround yourself with friends and family for emotional and mental support it will really help. Talk to them about anything and everything
Take each day at a time and as it comes. You'll have good days and bad days. It's okay to cry, it's okay to laugh. Remember the good times your memories of him will never be taken from you they will always be in your mind and your heart.When your little one is born tell them about him throughout their life this in turn will help you so much. If you are struggling please see speak to your doctor there is so much help out there for grieving and loss.
Although not the same I lost my nan to undetected cancer when my baby was 8 days old. She passed in February 2020 so it's still quite raw even though some months have passed. She was more like my mum than a nan x

My deepest condolences 💐 hun to you and your family.

I’m so sorry for your loss 😔
I lost my mom two weeks ago I thought it would push me over the edge as I was due soon,I felt guilty for not being happy when my baby was due any minute.I felt bad that my mom would never meet her, you’re stronger than you will ever know. You can get through this x