Difficult newborn

It’s quite normal. My son also slept alone the first part of the night, and wanted to be held the second part of the night. I used to sleep on a reclining sofa with him on my lap. Not really safe, but it was the only way for me to get some sleep. During the day he always wanted to be held and would wake up if you were not walking him in the stroller. Try wearing him - my son hated it, but hopefully it’ll work for you. The first weeks are exhausting because they can be so needy, but if you think about what huge adjustments is for them this new life outside the womb, it makes sense. If you have friends or family, ask for help - even a few hours in a row of sleep at night can make such a big difference. Hang in there, he’ll grow out of this phase eventually.

Have you tried swaddling him tight? We use the miracle blanket swaddle it’s been a game changer good luck mama your doing great ❤️

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I tried swaddling him with a standard Muslin swaddle blanket . I will check that one out too

Yeah definitely normal! I agree with the swaddling, some babies respond really well to that. Also a pacifier, or just even trying to feed him again. My son was very temperamental until we realised he was just sucking to soothe himself so getting a dummy was a lifesaver. If that doesn't work I usually just put him back on the breast until he's snoozy and he usually settles well after that

I had one of those. He is 2 months now. Is it his milk ?? And I would bathe him long and rock him n put the white noise on you tube. N he had to sleep with me n hubby a lot. Now he loves the crib! It gets better. I would CRY n curse in my mind at times of the frustration. I prayed A lot! Also stepping away helped and having some you time. Best wishes

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He’s breastfeed and i always have the fan going for white noise . He used to be okay sleeping with us, now he just wants to be held constantly

U got this! N if u don’t just don’t walk alone n get support n help! Even on here! Help is here! I’m here 😀💪🏼

He could be gassy or uncomfortable and swaddling def helps

Completely normal. Welcome to the life of having a newborn 🙂 it’s hard and exhausting and those first few weeks are definitely the hardest. It will get better. Read up on the fourth trimester to help make sense of it all

It’s normal. You’re doing an amazing job. Maybe a swaddle will help him feel more comfortable, since it reminds babies of feeling held, or being into the womb. He’s probably attached to you, because he hasn’t adjusted much yet. Best of luck. 💜

Completely normal. I have a 5 weeks old baby girl.. Same story as you, tried swaddling by week one, she slept through the first half that way, and then she would sleep only when held in my arm(s).. However, by the 3rd week she refused to be swaddled and I have been sleeping with her, she is calm and asleep as long as she is resting on my arm.. Hubby sleeps in the spare room! So baby and I have the space in our bed.. Also, she hates to be left down during the day too.. A baby carrier helps when I have to get things done around the house both while she is sleeping and awake.. Big hugs mama.. Every baby is different and all they need is an assurance that they are safe, after all they are new to this World after 9 months inside a dark cosy enclosure!

Get a baby wrap!

Your son is super cute! 😍 This new stage is difficult to transition into, there are so many unknowns! Do yourself a few favors — let yourself off the hook for ‘normal’ right now; try swaddling as other moms have suggested; and have a mom friend on speed dial (feel free to message me anytime) so that you can ask any questions at anytime to help you feel comfortable. You and your little cutie will get into a routine and sync together in no time. But if you feel out of sorts, overly emotional, or need to talk to someone about your thoughts, please call your doctor. You’ve got this. It may not seem like it, but you do! 🙌

What is your routine with him for relaxation? Do you have a diffuser? Is so, use lavender essential oils in the room where he will sleep, try playing meditation music and soothing him naturally. He’s a precious boy who spent 9 months being as close to you as he’ll ever be...this is normal. And boys loves their moms. He’s needs comfort. You got this mama.

Totally normal. My girl is 3 weeks old and oh my goodness do I need a break sometimes. I wear her in the wrap during the day just to accomplish things. It'll change soon and he will start being ok with not being on you. He's adjusting to a big scary world where all he knows is you 🥰

Look up the Safe Sleep 7! Our lives got significantly better when we started following that.

Try a swaddle and white noise my son was the same way i ended up finding a vacuum noise on YouTube that played 10 hours of it and finally got a break for a little while he slept in a swing

I have had 4 kids and my husband taught me something that really helped. Burping is extremely important. Start at the bottom of the back and pat his back all the way up. If he is able to burp, he will feel much better. Sometimes, they need to pass gas. You can lay the baby in his back and move his legs like a bicycle and press his legs against his belly, gently. After feeding him always make sure to lift him up well and burp him well.

My baby was like this pretty much from the start too. I got a sling and that finally allowed me to get on with things in the day. In the night I had to elavate her bed and I have this rockit rocker which attaches to the Moses basket or buggy and vibrates so that the basket rocks.. really worth looking into, I had it bought for me but it's deffo had it's uses x

Oh girl, totally normal. Also totally normal to feel overwhelmed with it all! If you think about it, he was on the inside all warm and close to you for so long and then just brought out into a cold world and it's hard to hold them allll the time. I get it! Do you have any help at all? My son didn't want to be held by anyone but me and it was SOOOO tough.

Is he eatting enough? At that age my daughter was the same and turned out she barely eat because she had a tight tongue

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Yea he is . He’s gaining weight on track and having consistent wet and spiked diapers

That’s good I think it’s pretty normal for them to do that

Totally normal, your baby just wants to be with you. Look up the fourth trimester and it will all make sense. Good on you though, it’s not easy but it does get easier 😉

Sounds normal. Baby is in the 4th trimester and he is adjusting. This is all new to him. It got so much better for us around 3 months old each time. It won’t always be like this. This too shall pass! Hang in there mama! You’re doing a great job.

Try all the techniques above, swaddle, white noise, bath n massage bfre bed. If tht doesn’t work then it could be reflux or colic n being up right or angled helps with tht x

sounds pretty normal, most babies are like this especially so young! thats how mine was. hed cry and cry and then get overtired and not be able to fall asleep. a newborn that young shouldnt be awake more than 45 minutes at a time, after that it’s extremely hard for them to just fall asleep. what solved this for me was getting a baby wrap i recommend konny or moby and it worked wonders, he falls asleep immediately whenever hes in it, especially if hes overtired. pop a paci in and hes out! they just want to be close and snug to u and ur hands will be free!

Of course it’s normal all he knows is being in your tummy and now he’s in the big scary world

Baby is in the adjustment period. Super normal. I’m not into the Velcro swaddles. I think they are loud. Personally, I prefer zipper OR I use a swaddle blanket with some stretch. Try googling The 5 S’s by Dr. Harvey Karp.

Definitely use a pregnancy pillow to support him, I wouldn't have coped without that. It is normal. He's been snuggled up inside you for nine months so it can take him a little time to adjust. They change massively in the first few months so don't despair.

This is normal. He’s so precious. I remember the sore arms and the healing process. Your body will eventually adjust and get stronger.

Are you swaddling? A lot of people think their babies hate it but they don’t. Look up Taking Cara Babies. She sells newborn to 3 years old courses on all things babies but especially sleep. It changed the game for me! She also has free advice on her blog. She’s awesome! It’ll get better good luck!

Congratulations on your little one; this is perfectly normal newborn behaviour, (read up on fourth trimester) baby doesnd even know he born yet, he finds comfort in your smell, warmth and heartbeat. if your breastfeeding baby is cluster feeding to help with your supply and how are you finding initial latch? How’s nappy output? Try and follow the safe sleep 7 to co sleeping also try a wrap and sling and sleep when baby is sleeping Also read up on purple crying and the witching hour It will and does get better they go through so many leaps and growth spurts at this age. You got this mama your doing greatXx

This sounds exactly like my girl as a newborn, it is sooooooo hard! We ended up bedsharing (if you do this look up how to do it safely) which helped with her sleep but she was a very fussy and crying baby for 4 months. Now at 7 months she cries a lot less and is happier but still so so clingy so I can barely ever put her down without her crying. It gets better with time but that doesn’t make it any easier in the moment.

It’s normal baby could be having colic or gassy . Colic goes away on its own usually by 3 to 4 months . Make sure to burp your baby . I burp my baby after every ounce . My baby is 1 moth right now and have 4 ounces every 3 to 4 hours . (Drinking formula )

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You got it girl ! I know it’s hard !