Women who stayed after betrayal

That after all the hurt and betrayal they’ve done… we’re still supposed to remain the same? How do they expect us not to bring it up during every argument just because “it’s in the past”, but it’s not so much in the past because they KEEP doing it??! Why do they think that after months/ years of this betrayal that the sex is going to be the same?? They’ll sit there and wonder why they can’t make their spouse climax anymore… They’ll think it’s because there’s someone else… because they don’t look good to you anymore… they question the size of their dick.. “is it big enough?”… But they won’t think it’s the random thoughts we get remembering the betrayal & with those thoughts come questions… Why did he do it ? Am I not good enough anymore? What does she have that I don’t? Does he really love me? Why does he love me? Am I not worthy of loyalty? Is this what love is?

Why do we stay after all the betrayal? Because we just love them that much, we’re willing to fight against ourselves… instead of fighting for ourselves…

IF YOU’VE NEVER FELT THIS WAY OR BEEN IN A SITUATION LIKE THIS.. RESPECTFULLY KEEP YOUR NEGATIVE OPINIONS TO YOURSELVES

Ladies if you’re in this situation, currently… and just need someone to talk to, to get it off your chest.. I AM HERE..

I know how you feel.. I know what you’re going through… I’m offering my listening ears, because I wish I had someone to vent to about things like this.. it really is better to let it out, than to hold it in.. you’ll eventually break and snap if you don’t let it out…

So my husband of 5 years cheated and that's just with me catching him makes me wonder what he's done behind my back and it's so scary to think of divorce. He doesn't want it, it's me who thinking of getting it but it's so hard because unlike him I loved him and I adored this man and a part of me doesn't want it to be over. I'm so lost 😔

I left my relationship after dealing with so much bs. So, so much. Verbal abuse, amongst other things, was a huge no for me, and now I’m finally done. It’s been 10 years. But that’s the thing, am I done? I’ve went through the most embarrassing and painful things over the last few weeks, and there’s no coming back from it, but why do I still want the relationship? As a mother of 3 boys, how do we make sure our sons are not like the monsters we’ve had to deal with? 😔 I know I’m all over the place, but seriously, how do we help our boys?

It's been 2.5 years since Dday and things haven't really improved, in fact I feel they are worse. He basically lives in two worlds...one here with me and our kids, the other in his country where his buisness is...I believe this lifestyle is what allowed him to cheat and get away with it for so long. We have been together since I was 17yrs old and he was 19 yrs old...he has always been the bread winner, because that's the way he wanted it...mostly because he wanted me to be with him when he was home and not out working and because he wanted me to be home with the kids...which i was very thankful for and I was an amazing mom and wife. I ran the home , cooked, cleaned, did the activities with the kids etc...and when he came home he was the center of my world. YET for as long as I could remember he was always angry...I ignored this and tried harder hoping that he would get better...years passed the kids grew up and I finally decided when my middle daughter was 17 to go to nursing school...as I literally was stuck in a home in a state where I had no family nd like maybe 1or 2 friends...Before I even enrolled i asked him if we would be able to survive. He ensured me that we would be fine...shortly after my mom passed away, he wasn't there, then his father passed away and I was there for him. Then I enrolled in school and 3 months later covid hit. Then in 2020 I found out I was pregnant with our 3rd child, in which he was angry about, I ended up giving birth via emergency c-section alone (he was in his country). Then 2 months or so after birth, my older daughter, my son and myself ended up with covid...I had to carry for a newborn and 2 grown kids and myself while I felt like I was dying. Shortly after that, i learned my older daughter was doing drugs and he hlamed me for it, because I should have known...Fast foward schools are finally opening back up and I needed someone to care for my younger daughter who was 6 months at this time...but he refused daycare so we packed up and moved back to Texas so I could finish school...which he was very upset about...Fast foward again. He is still coming home but he voices his resentment and his anger increases. Then in 2023 I find out about the affairs. He makes promises to do what it takes, said he would do therapy etc...NOTHING. I did get his password to his phone but thats about it Which leads us to now 2.5 years out and I do not feel we have moved forward, he wants me to be respectful and submissive but how??? He says I have become bitter, disrespectful and lazy! I am none of tjose things...I am just tired! I do not see a point. I am still in nursing school and raising a 4 year old, he is here part time. He gets mas if I don't clean or do thing on his terms...he helps and does a lot around the house but complains about it the entire time ..tells me that he should not have to lift a finger because he makes the money and supports me and the family for the last 28 years...and that I should respect him. In his country he has someone to cooked and clean for him...I get upset and bring up the affairs because while I was at home raising kids for the last 27 years he was out having affairs and living his best life...the time and memories he gave to them was stolen from me. I am notvsure what I am looking for here...maybe to vent , maybe to be told if I am in the wrong. I am just so angry about everything. The affairs have opened my eyes to so much that I turned a blind eye to...and to add yo it, this man has put his hands on me many times. He promised me a wedding yet we never had one. He has not been present for important events in my life....yes he has taken care of me financially but that doesn't excuse his behavior. He alway seems angry and tells me this isn't the life he wanted but that he is doing it and that should be respected .

my husband has cheated multiple times while we been married . and he’s tryna be good now “or so he says” but i have super paranoia now . thinking he’ll just do it again . i have a 4 month old and he cheated while i gave birth . he also battles mental health and sometimes it seems like his meds aren’t working he gets angry and mean and belittles me . yells screams slams doors . then says sorry later . i don’t have family or many friends here and he provides everything. so i feel like im stuck an can’t leave if i wanted to . i dk what to do . i love him but the way he’s been treating me im falling out of love