Stepmoms/Bonusmoms ♥️

Yes I choose to be a bonus mom at 18 but I’m tired of when I say stuff like “you chose this” and “your not his real mom” he calls me mom I take him to the doctors I take him to daycare I come to every party I buy stuff for him to party with his friends at daycare I take him to the zoo I read him to sleep I get him ready for bed I took him the hospital when he was crying in pain and when he couldn’t breathe do to have strep and rsv last month and I do the same thing over and over I am there everyday when he wakes up I choose over and over to love him everyday like he is my blood I feed him and love him more than his bio mom has done for a while I’m the mom who shows up

My SS is 4 yo, he has been in my life since he was 1, we have a great relationship. He's very excited about having a baby brother and rubs my tummy and asks how the baby is. All lush! My partners parents were over a few days ago and I showed his mum my recent scan pics, my SS went to look at them too and she said that's your half brother... I felt this was really unnecessary to say amd it hurt me alot, it's like she is separating me and the baby from the family. I said if we are going to be pedantic about half DNA then that makes her half a grandmother as her only connection is through you much like SS... I appreciate he is a half brother, my brother is my half brother, he has two sets of kids with different mums who are half siblings, its known but it in now way changes anything, my brother is my brother, my niece and nephew see their little two brothers as their brothers. It's just been bugging me why she felt the need to say "half" brother to confuse the poor kid 😕

Hi everyone, my fiancé told his 18 year old daughter that we are having a baby together. She is crying, processing. We have been together for 5 years now. Any advice or personal experience is greatly appreciated. Thank you!

incoming long post I met my bonus baby when she was 3 1/2. She is now 7. We’ve had a great relationship! She has always been so sweet and kind. Her mother has never wanted a relationship with me so I respect her wishes and did not press that matter. About a year after knowing my bonus baby she was confused on what to call me and her dad said she can call me whatever she wants/is comfortable with. She decided on bonus mom💞 Her mom did not like that and shut that down quickly. Respecting her mom’s wishes, I did not press that either. Her dad and I have 2 1/2 year old twins together whom she loves and has a great relationship with. I will say our home can be a bit more chaotic and our(her father and I)attentions are spread between all three children as opposed to her mother’s home she is the only child there. The past few weeks or so she has been very sad and wanting to call her mom(which is totally okay, just out of the normal). One day she even cried leaving her mom’s house because she just wanted to be with her mom. I’m not sure what caused this shift in her not wanting to be here but it tears me apart. I want her to be happy but I also want her to want to spend time with us and know that she is so loved here. I know there are changes at her mom’s house too(she is in a serious relationship now) so that may have an impact as well. I also think if may be hard for her to see her dad with another women and have kids that all live in the same house where as her parents have different houses. I was wondering if anyone elsew has been in this situation and how they were/are supportive of their bonus baby and why they did in this scenario.

Just wondering what your bonus kids call you.

My bonus son is 5 I’ve been in his life since he was 2. And recently over the last few months has really decided he wants to call me mom. We had corrected him when he was little but at this point I don’t want him to feel rejected and it’s an honour that he feels that bond.

I’ve talked to BM about it and she’s ok with us finding a new title but doesn’t want mom/mommy to be interchanged which I understand.

Just wondering what your bonus kids call you that’s not “step mom” or first name which he also doesn’t want to use.