Pregnant as a stepmum

My SS is 4 yo, he has been in my life since he was 1, we have a great relationship. He's very excited about having a baby brother and rubs my tummy and asks how the baby is. All lush!
My partners parents were over a few days ago and I showed his mum my recent scan pics, my SS went to look at them too and she said that's your half brother... I felt this was really unnecessary to say amd it hurt me alot, it's like she is separating me and the baby from the family. I said if we are going to be pedantic about half DNA then that makes her half a grandmother as her only connection is through you much like SS... I appreciate he is a half brother, my brother is my half brother, he has two sets of kids with different mums who are half siblings, its known but it in now way changes anything, my brother is my brother, my niece and nephew see their little two brothers as their brothers. It's just been bugging me why she felt the need to say "half" brother to confuse the poor kid šŸ˜•

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In my family we’ve never done half siblings half this. My siblings and I are all half siblings but we’ve never said itšŸ˜‚ I mean only if they ask cuz on my moms side I’m the only mixed one lol and same with my dadšŸ˜‚. I’d have a talk with him and let him know it hurt you that she felt like she had to mention half sibling. It honestly doesn’t matter if they are full Or half they are still siblings

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Aww you sound like a great step mum, the way you talk about him is heartwarming. Most of them are witches that I’ve come across so this is a really lovely post 😭

The comment however is completely weird and unnecessary, why on earth would you say that anyway but to an excited 4 year old child? WEIRD. Your feelings are valid and if she does it again, correct her - it’s his brother!

I have a ā€˜half’ brother and a ā€˜half’ sister. I’ve never ever heard anyone call them that though, we are just brothers and sisters. People who get hung up on that have internal issues that they’re projecting onto other people!

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To a 4 year old? Yeah that’s entirely unnecessary. As if he’s going to understand that concept. Regardless of that, siblings are siblings through and through. My sister and I are half siblings but never do I refer to her as my half sister. That’s just weird. Keep it simple. That’s his brother. She didn’t have to do all that.

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