Am I in the Wrong?
My landlord and her daughter came into mine and my daughterās room that we are renting today to grab clothes and belonging that she had left here. I received NO verbal, written or otherwise notice of her plans to do so in advance, and was only told later that evening that this had taken place.
When we got āhome,ā our room was tossed around quite a bit! Itās obvious they had gone through all of the drawers, closets, etc, which also includes our personal belongings, in order to make sure she had all of the things she wanted, Iām assuming.
I later found out that her son (who is a close friend of mine, but stillā¦) had ALSO come into our room, without permission, to grab a couple of his daughters belongings (I had her over to watch her last night). His daughter did not need these items anytime soon, but the way.
Iām feeling pretty uncomfortable with this. In my experience with rental agreements, the landlord always gives prior notice and makes a plan with me/the tenant before coming onto, and especially inside the home. Itās really thrown us off kilter. Itās led us to feel quite uncomfortable in a space that we should feel safe in.
What do you guys think? Is this an invasion of my privacy and against my rights as the tenant, or is the status quo?
What do I do ?
Iāve been pregnant with my 3rd child for 6 months now, Iāve had all my kids back to back because birth control causes me major health issues and Iām allergic to latex. Me and my partner have been together for 2 and a half years. For half of this time Iāve been asking him to help with the kids more, be more consistent with me and him and be more romantic/ hearing me and just making me feel not alone. Iām a SAHM I do most of the house work and we are currently moving. I was already pissed off because he was being an asshole to me all weekend, kept calling me annoying and irritating mind you.. starting around Thursday heād have short temper with the kids I had to correct him. Saturday we had to get up early for DC, I fed my kids did their hair, got
Their clothes out, brushed their teeth, cleaned etc and he didnāt get up until 9:50, we had to leave the house by 10:30 we didnāt even up leaving until 1130, the day after this we had a family event with my family. Every family event we have went to with my side of the family heās been an asshole. He got irritated because I was gone talking to my cousin and when I came
Back he addressed me I front of a couple members of my family. We left I felt really embarrassed we didnāt talk until the next night. Which is today. I spent a lot of time packing and he came and tried to apologize but I didnāt say anything else to him. In later asked did he just plan on packing his stuff and he said yes which means heās expecting me to pack our entire apartment including everything and the kids and myself, Iām just tired. We have great chemistry when things are good but 50% of the time Iām
Unhappy and idk what
To do.
Husband decides to vent??
So sitting together while the little one is sleeping. We are just chilling heās playing a video game which is fine with me I play them too! Iām catching up with a friends who are having a baby soon. They are having trouble financially and seem happy but might be stressed about the baby coming but havenāt said much on way or another. Iām talking to my husband about them and whatās going on, this is nothing new when Iām talking to friends.
He freaks out on me says we donāt do things together we donāt talk about fun things anymore, how Iām to busy with the baby and going to back to school full time, and how thatās all I talk about, we donāt just cuddle (I donāt have to stick my dick in you). how he tries to āhelpā watch the baby so I can do fun things, so I can be how I was before the baby.
What do i do with that? Iām at mom I take care of a toddler full time, i might get 1 day a month for 2 hours my mother in law might watch the toddler so I can study deeply. We donāt have a nanny or house cleaners I do all household chores if not they donāt get done! I know this for a fact because my toddler get sick for 4 days so I couldnāt do any cleaning or washing clothes, not once did he pick up. Other wise Iām studying at night and going to class 3 nights a week. Iām also trying to get a start up off the ground so I can make money for our family and be there for my family on my own schedule.
What do I do with that kind of āblow upā from him???
How do I make him realize??
Iām pregnant for the first time I just turned 19 today actually, and Iām still with dad, weāve been together since freshmen year of high school but itās been ALOT we have been through litterly everything you could think of to be honest, and weāre still here! Anyway, Iām pregnant now we werenāt trying at all but not really taking proper precautions and now weāre having a baby long story short but, I feel like heās not taking this as serious as I am, Iāve worked with children and families since I was 16, and Iāve helped my mom raise my sister since she was born and sheās only 4 now almost 5, but him on the other hand, his dad passed when he was 12-13 mom got
Locked up since he was 13-14 and heās been living with his grandparents ever since and there old school, they also donāt even know about this because thatās for him to tell not me, he just idk I really feel like heās not taking it serious? he dosent even wanna tell anyone and I donāt really Either but at the end of the day who really Cares what they think. Iām scared heāll just look at me as pregnant and thatās it, does that make sense?? I fear heāll take no effort to research how Iām changing physically and mentally and Iām scared heāll be here but not HERE. Heāll be here physically but not understanding or even try to mentally and emotionally. Like Iām just pregnant not Everything else that comes with it, and I want him to try this program called rookie dads and he just shot me down right away, I even tried saying it was for me or it was for baby why is it have to be an argument and still nothing! what do I do to show him like this is real life and you need to take initiative, I mean itās only been about a week since weve been processing but stillā¦ does anyone know anything of what to do??
