How do I make him realize??

I’m pregnant for the first time I just turned 19 today actually, and I’m still with dad, we’ve been together since freshmen year of high school but it’s been ALOT we have been through litterly everything you could think of to be honest, and we’re still here! Anyway, I’m pregnant now we weren’t trying at all but not really taking proper precautions and now we’re having a baby long story short but, I feel like he’s not taking this as serious as I am, I’ve worked with children and families since I was 16, and I’ve helped my mom raise my sister since she was born and she’s only 4 now almost 5, but him on the other hand, his dad passed when he was 12-13 mom got
Locked up since he was 13-14 and he’s been living with his grandparents ever since and there old school, they also don’t even know about this because that’s for him to tell not me, he just idk I really feel like he’s not taking it serious? he dosent even wanna tell anyone and I don’t really Either but at the end of the day who really Cares what they think. I’m scared he’ll just look at me as pregnant and that’s it, does that make sense?? I fear he’ll take no effort to research how I’m changing physically and mentally and I’m scared he’ll be here but not HERE. He’ll be here physically but not understanding or even try to mentally and emotionally. Like I’m just pregnant not Everything else that comes with it, and I want him to try this program called rookie dads and he just shot me down right away, I even tried saying it was for me or it was for baby why is it have to be an argument and still nothing! what do I do to show him like this is real life and you need to take initiative, I mean it’s only been about a week since weve been processing but still… does anyone know anything of what to do??

in our community

Does your partner help?

Interested in knowing other people’s dynamics, I have a 2.5 year old n a 8 month old, I do absolutely everything with the kids and all the housework. My partner very rarely interacts with the kids.

Just trying to work out if this is the ‘norm’ as we’ve had countless discussions about this and nothing changes due to it being ‘my role as a mum’

Grandparents overbuying

Has anyone dealt with a grandparent who buys their child WAY too much stuff? Is there any way to get them to stop without it being the end of the world?
My MIL has good intentions but buys my daughter like 2 tote bags FULL of clothes and toys every month when we see her 🙃 Our house is quite literally overflowing with things and I don’t know how to tell her to stop in a nice way without her taking it as an attack to her as that’s how she shows her love

Conceal carry women: if you were taking your kids to a nature hike for a walk with another adult, would you ask if they’re comfortable with you bringing your gun or would you just bring it without saying anything?

For a little more info: the place we’re talking about going is the nature walking area because the paths are paved so I can easily push the stroller but it’s also kinda spooky walking there as a women especially with three young children. I really don’t thing it’s unsafe (I’ve been there before by myself before having kids) but you never know and I’d rather be safe than sorry. I haven’t seen this friend for years and I don’t really know if she’s comfortable with me having a gun but I also wanna feel safe walking with my kids 🤷‍♀️

Childminding business

So I'm thinking of starting up my own Childminding business and I'd like to know what people's thoughts are...

Would you send your LO to a childminder that lives in a flat?

please help I don't know what to do

My 12 yo son has had two girl best friends (we'll call them A and V) since they were babies, basically. We've become friends with their mothers over the years, and we let them have sleepovers at each other's houses quite often. They go to the same school, my son and A, and recently my son started coming home from school very down and irritable. I tried to find out what was wrong, and yesterday he finally confessed that for the past few weeks his classmates had been avoiding him, talking about him behind his back, and yesterday a classmate asked him if it was true that he had masturbated in front of A and V at a sleepover and had touched A while she was sleeping.

I know how this sounds, I was so fucking worried and I didn't know what to do. I asked him if it was true and he completely denied it, crying. I'm a psychologist and I always know when my son is lying, and I believed him.
I spoke with V's mother (who doesn't go to the same school) so she could ask V about it, and after talking to her, she called me to say that V had denied anything like that had happened. She seemed horrified and said that she was even the one who slept in the middle of the three of them and nothing happened. They just watched a movie and went to sleep.
After that, I called A's mother and told her the whole situation, to which she replied, "It's just kids being kids." (Are you fucking kidding?!) She knows her daughter lied, turning all the children against mine, and she didn't apologize or anything. I'm devastated. My son is still being bullied, and V isn't even at the same school to defend him or correct what happened. I don't understand A's mother's reaction, and I don't know what to do anymore.

Finance issues longish I’m sorry

I’m a SAHM so we’re a one income family. We have been for the last four years. When he gets paid it goes in our account and I tell him what needs to get paid and what’s coming up blah blah. He recently got a new job and took a pay cut (we talked about it before and I told him it could work but we have to budget because it’s less and the bills aren’t going down. Anyways. It’s been a few months now and we’re somehow making it. Because he continues to spend after I’ve told him not to and when I say something it turns into “we’ll be okay” “we’ll figure it out”. It happened yesterday when he decided to make a purchase without telling me until afterwards. When I told him that makes me feel like shit because it’s on me to make sure that we can work it in and sometimes we can’t (the beginning of the month when rent it due) and ummm it’s due. I just needed to vent and see if I’m the only one that deals with this or is it everyone 🙄
Like I don’t wanna fight dude I just want him to understand what our money looks like but when I try to get him to talk about it he just goes “ let me know when I can spend” and I do and he still spends what he wants! I’m tired of being the only one stressed about it and I can’t change the numbers.. we literally don’t even eat out. No “extra”