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Recently I've opened my eyes and realised my partners family is fucking toxic, and I come from a toxic family but the only people that are toxic on my side are my 2 sisters, whereas it's most of my partners family that's toxic, its come to a point where I wanna say fuck it and me, him and our 2 kids just go and get eloped rather than having a big-ish wedding because I just want to marry him, don't wanna marry his family, and I don't really wanna celebrate our marriage with them, don't get me wrong I love them but I don't know since we had our 2nd child (daughter) they have changed with us, for instance his mam only wants to know me when she needs to rant to someone about her job (she never asks how I am or how the kids are doing or you genuinely convo), his dad everytime we go to see them barely talks to me, and he always goes off to have a joint (I don't care if he smokes it or he does it in his own house whatever, I just don't like the fact he does it when my kids are in the same house then comes down and plays with them, he doesn't sneak off to smoke a joint when his daughters kids are there) 2 out 3 sisters have kids, and the 2 sisters (a&b) always go on days out with each other and watch each others kids but they never ask us , even if they just asked if our 2 year old wanted to go to the park with them (not asking them to watch him or thinking they need to spend time with our kids, I just think it would be nice once in a blue moon, since we always ask them) and sister b is just a jealous cow because she has a 3 year old and 10mnth old both lads and she's always wanted a girl, and because when we had our son (2 year old) he got alot of attention due to his hair mostly and then she wasn't happy to learn we was pregnant same time as her with 2nd aswell, but we had a little girl which sparked alot of jealously (really don't understand why gender matters, as longs the baby is happy and healthy it shouldn't matter if they pee sitting or standing) so yeah I think his family is very toxic, and tbh I've heard stories of when he was little like his mum would fat shame him cause he would have 2 bowls of ceral, she even fat shamed him the other day calling him greedy which I didn't like, his sisters have all chosen wrong men, but they still judge my sisters life choices, sister B and C are known to smoke weed and take coke but yet my sister who only does weed and occasional coke gets judged, at family events they seem to turn their noses up at my side as if my side are scum even tho my mam and dad are amazing parents who's always put me and my sisters first whereas my partners parents would rather pay off their mortgage than buy my partner shoes when he was in school 😞

So yeah sorry this was more of a rant but anyone else feel like they just wanna leave and marry rather than celebrating with family, mean only part that's stopping me is the fact I would love to celebrate with my side of the family a d have my dad walk me down.

I just love my partner and just wanna marry him not his family if that makes sense

We have a 4 month old little girl My partner is an only child Up until now I have raised our child on my own 24/7 My partner until the last day spent probably 15 mins a day with her

Cut the story short

Mother in law sent me a post on Facebook about having an empty cup, allowing others to help so my cup wasn't over flowing. To which I replied unless her son helps out with our daughter, my cup will always be over flowing

She then wrote me a message about how her son has no experience with babies and he will probably be better when she's a toddler

I blew my top Told my partner if im doing this alone then l might as well be single He's great with chores but rubbish with our daughter

After my blow up, he has done better However I can't seem to move past the mil I'm sick of her excuses Her constant sending ideas Asking daily for photos.

Not sure what I want people to say I needed to offload

My father in law has really pissed me off and I need to know wether he was the A**hole or if my pregnancy hormones have me overreacting!

A little backstory so it makes sense … me and my partner used to live in our own flat, private rented when I was 9 weeks pregnant the landlord told us we had one month to find somewhere new to live as he was going to be selling the flat, we where really struggling financially and to find somewhere in short time so my MIL and FIL said we could go live with them to get ourselves sorted (we didn’t really want to because as nice as this offer was there’s always a catch with them) they are the kind of parents that feel they can tell there grown son what he can and can’t do and now try to be heavily involed in our life decisions, with little time we agreed and gratefully accepted there offer a week after handing our keys in and moving into there place they tell us we will need to pay £600 a month to them (me and my partner full time and his 2 year old daughter on weekends) we didn’t expect to live there for free but that was almost double our flat and we still had to buy all our own food on top of it we tried talking to them but they said it was that or leave.. we lived there for 4 short months in that time I had a baby at 25 weeks and knew I couldn’t take her home there on oxygen and feeding tube as I knew they would have too much to say as they already did and she wasn’t even home! it felt like an eternity there was so many things in that time but my god I’d be here all day!

Anyway a week after moving out ( 6 months ago) a letter for me for a debt of £180 went to there hosue they rang me screaming at me that a debt had gone to there house I told them I was really confused as I wasn’t in any debt, I rang the company straight away and cleared up the misunderstanding. It was a credit company (Argos card) I had took out bought something and paid it off in full as a way to try bump my credit score they found the payment and apologised… that was that

Today i get a text saying “you can come round this afternoon you have a phone call to make while your here”

I asked them what it was about and they said a letter came for me and they opened it and it’s a debt I have to sort …. I replied asking if it’s the same one as I know I’m not in any debt and if they can send me a photo they haven’t replied

I sent a follow up message asking why they had opened my mail without asking me and he replied “because I can it came to my house”

Just curious to know other people’s opinions? I think it was out of order to open my Mail and I think it’s pretty rude the way he’s spoken to me and the fact he’s telling me I have to go to there hosue and make the phone call Infront of him jsut feels wrong! I am a grown women and he’s not even my parent! … I changed everything over and changed over my address on the electro roll too i got a letter saying it wouldn’t be changed till April but wondering if this is why it’s gone there? They are not happy my letter went there but I don’t know what else I can do about that!

My husband and I have been married for nine years next month together for 11 years. We’re expecting our first nugget in 6 to 8 weeks. We emailed out the list of vaccines. Anyone who would hold the baby must have.

My family is full of physicians and medical providers who happily accepted.

We had no idea my inlaws would push back and refuse to be around until the summer. This is the first biological grandchild, By the way. You would think that would override their over bearing narcissism.

Freedom of choice is not freedom from Consequence - they keep drowning on and on about respect. It’s bullshit cover for them expecting us to kowtow. So he’s considering cutting them off entirely.

More than anything I want to rip their throats out because they hurt my husband so much. He’s a literal gentle giant.

Just a picture of our food from the holiday party

For my first child , when she was born in 2021 still covid going around, we asked family members to not kiss the baby. This included face hands feet. My parents and inlaws were kind of upset and said things like “how am I not supposed to kiss my grandchild” she wont know I love her if i dont. etc. and I explained my reasons and emphasized it is covid flu rsv season. We dont want them kissing her and if they cant resist and respect our wishes they shouldnt hold her. They all understood were I was coming from and accepted it .

My MIL and FIL ended up disrespecting our wishes as soon as they held her and got offended when I asked for my baby back. And didnt let them hold her after that.

Now we are expecting baby #2 and my In Laws brought up how at least this baby wont be born during flu season since we are due in spring time. Hubby and I both said yeah but we still expect everyone not to kiss the baby. And then we had to hear them complain about it “ how can they not kiss a new grand baby” “ maybe we shouldn’t have them around until they can “ “ im being overprotective/controlling” “ Covid is over” .

I dont feel in the wrong. I mentioned the facts as to why I dont want them kissing but I feel I shouldn’t have to explain myself or reasons for not wanting them to kiss a newborn baby.