FIL!!!

My father in law has really pissed me off and I need to know wether he was the A**hole or if my pregnancy hormones have me overreacting!

A little backstory so it makes sense … me and my partner used to live in our own flat, private rented when I was 9 weeks pregnant the landlord told us we had one month to find somewhere new to live as he was going to be selling the flat, we where really struggling financially and to find somewhere in short time so my MIL and FIL said we could go live with them to get ourselves sorted (we didn’t really want to because as nice as this offer was there’s always a catch with them) they are the kind of parents that feel they can tell there grown son what he can and can’t do and now try to be heavily involed in our life decisions, with little time we agreed and gratefully accepted there offer a week after handing our keys in and moving into there place they tell us we will need to pay £600 a month to them (me and my partner full time and his 2 year old daughter on weekends) we didn’t expect to live there for free but that was almost double our flat and we still had to buy all our own food on top of it we tried talking to them but they said it was that or leave.. we lived there for 4 short months in that time I had a baby at 25 weeks and knew I couldn’t take her home there on oxygen and feeding tube as I knew they would have too much to say as they already did and she wasn’t even home! it felt like an eternity there was so many things in that time but my god I’d be here all day!

Anyway a week after moving out ( 6 months ago) a letter for me for a debt of £180 went to there hosue they rang me screaming at me that a debt had gone to there house I told them I was really confused as I wasn’t in any debt, I rang the company straight away and cleared up the misunderstanding. It was a credit company (Argos card) I had took out bought something and paid it off in full as a way to try bump my credit score they found the payment and apologised… that was that

Today i get a text saying “you can come round this afternoon you have a phone call to make while your here”

I asked them what it was about and they said a letter came for me and they opened it and it’s a debt I have to sort …. I replied asking if it’s the same one as I know I’m not in any debt and if they can send me a photo they haven’t replied

I sent a follow up message asking why they had opened my mail without asking me and he replied “because I can it came to my house”

Just curious to know other people’s opinions? I think it was out of order to open my Mail and I think it’s pretty rude the way he’s spoken to me and the fact he’s telling me I have to go to there hosue and make the phone call Infront of him jsut feels wrong! I am a grown women and he’s not even my parent! … I changed everything over and changed over my address on the electro roll too i got a letter saying it wouldn’t be changed till April but wondering if this is why it’s gone there? They are not happy my letter went there but I don’t know what else I can do about that!

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Divorced at 5 months PP

My husband just divorced me yesterday.

I'm 5 months post partum and I feel like complete shit. I literally can't stop crying and I don't feel like eating and this whole week my milk supply has gone down due to stress and not eating. What helps with milk supply?

The divorce- on Monday at 5am me and my husband had a small argument on text. It was regarding him not catering to my love language. I sent him a video on how women shouldn't have to ask and how laziness can kill a relationship. We've had many arguments regarding this prior about him not catering to my love language and he doesn't buy me flowers or doesn't think of me. Anyways this night, he text me saying he doesn't do Mother's Day and all that, he doesn't want to buy me flowers because my sisters buy me flowers and he can't be arsed with my moods. He said I've not been his peace and said he's done.
I replied "okay. All I want is for you to appreciate me and love me as your wife and mother of your child. I'm not pushing you away, I'm begging you to love me etc etc. I'm done too."

I come home from my errands that morning and he's upped and left. He took all of his belongings, clothes, drawer, tv- everything.

He didn't ring or text me or anything.

The property is in my name and as he left and didn't leave the key, I changed the locks the next day. I feel this is what pushed him over the edge.

He officially divorced me on Saturday.
I'm 5 months post partum and I have a 5 year old from my ex partner too.

I just want to talk about it with someone that's not biased. Was I asking for too much? I feel he just didn't want to be with me anymore and used this as an excuse? Or is that me overthinking....
Input would be nice xoxo

wtf moment?

I have been going back and forth with my husband lately. Well not lately it’s been years. He is the best husband and father you could ask for; for two weeks. Then he’s inconsistent. It drives me mad. Then he’s back to husband and dad of the year , then back to same inconsistency. I talked to him about this last night and he said “if i was lovey dovey and acted like this all the time you’d get bored and cheat on me.”

Ok so for starters i know some of you are going to say omg omg omg super controlling omg leave omg. No im not doing that. Im happy he finally admitted his wrong doing and taking accountability for it but id like to know the deeper reason, the what the f has him thinking like this reason, the personality trait reason. He’s obviously scared I’m going to leave him; so much so that he’s doing this dumb shit to prevent it. Past trauma? What do y’all think I can do to get him to see I’m not going anywhere? I’m consistent already, I married him, we have a baby. He really is the love of my life. I have never loved another man like this before.. but this shit is for the birds and he thinks he’s keeping me doing this but in actuality it’s making me lose respect and detach.

Partner is giving me the silent treatment

So I was struggling with my postpartum anxiety bad yesterday. My partner and I was out for drinks with family. He kept making jokes about treating me a bit shit.
Which no one thought was funny. I am usually quite patient about him using me as his jokes, but yesterday it hurt.

When we got home I told him it made me feel disrespected. Now he is giving me the cold fat shoulder?! What do I do ?

worried about a family members baby

So this child is three months old and she isn’t being fed from 10pm till 6/7 am idk if this is normal or safe and it’s been like this since 2 months i believe as she won’t wake her for feeds she goes to the pub drinking most nights with her baby and her baby has already been in hospital with a very low temperature bc she was outside but as soon as she was in a warm car she warmed up and doctors said she was fine she lets cats play with her bouncers toys that go over her and doesn’t strap her in she is cold from what i’ve heard from other family members and they’ve tried to warm her hands and she’s wet herself at my parents and she hasn’t had a spare vest to put on her and i offered her a blanket as she didn’t have one and she declined and she won’t listen to anyone about it she’s already left the baby with my parents for the night to go out drinking and personally i couldn’t leave my three month old because my parents said she just cried and im really unsure whether to report her or not and her house smells of dog wee/poo as she’s never home to look after them and that’s not safe for the baby i understand being lonely but she doesn’t need to go to the pub every night her friends could
go
to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

my parents are concerned btw but they say i shouldn’t report her as it’s not fair but i feel how the baby is treated isn’t fair

Forgiving a partner…

Long story short - found out 2 months ago my partner of almost 10 years has slept with two girls, one of which he’s been seeing for 8 months - during this time I was pregnant with our third child and gave birth. (She had an abortion)
I found out, he cut all ties (still works with her)
I want to try and move on from this, we have three children , and a home… I can’t face the idea of being without my children half the time. I want to try and make things work. But I can’t stop the intrusive thoughts / images of the two of them together…. Any advice if you’ve been in a similar situation?
Sick of feeling this rubbish, also 5 month pp so hormones/confidence is in pieces😣😣😣

Does anyone else hate their partner?

I’m now a little over 2 months postpartum and I’ve struggled with genuinely just not liking my partner anymore since we found out I was pregnant last year. I catch myself just staring at him with hatred because I’m so sick and tired of his bullshit. He is just now getting a job and has not had one since THANKSGIVING!!! Meanwhile I was working full time until I finally got too sick to be able to work. I genuinely want him out of my house but I depend on him as far as driving goes bc I don’t have a car. I also still love him deep down and don’t want to put him out on the street but he’s driving me genuinely insane. Any advice?