Divorced at 5 months PP
My husband just divorced me yesterday.
I'm 5 months post partum and I feel like complete shit. I literally can't stop crying and I don't feel like eating and this whole week my milk supply has gone down due to stress and not eating. What helps with milk supply?
The divorce- on Monday at 5am me and my husband had a small argument on text. It was regarding him not catering to my love language. I sent him a video on how women shouldn't have to ask and how laziness can kill a relationship. We've had many arguments regarding this prior about him not catering to my love language and he doesn't buy me flowers or doesn't think of me. Anyways this night, he text me saying he doesn't do Mother's Day and all that, he doesn't want to buy me flowers because my sisters buy me flowers and he can't be arsed with my moods. He said I've not been his peace and said he's done.
I replied "okay. All I want is for you to appreciate me and love me as your wife and mother of your child. I'm not pushing you away, I'm begging you to love me etc etc. I'm done too."
I come home from my errands that morning and he's upped and left. He took all of his belongings, clothes, drawer, tv- everything.
He didn't ring or text me or anything.
The property is in my name and as he left and didn't leave the key, I changed the locks the next day. I feel this is what pushed him over the edge.
He officially divorced me on Saturday.
I'm 5 months post partum and I have a 5 year old from my ex partner too.
I just want to talk about it with someone that's not biased. Was I asking for too much? I feel he just didn't want to be with me anymore and used this as an excuse? Or is that me overthinking....
Input would be nice xoxo
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I'm so sorry. 5 months pp is still such a stressful time what with sleep deprivation, hormones etc.
It sounds like he is not able to handle constructive feedback or communication. The fact he just upped and left without saying anything is crazy.
He probably wanted you to grovel to him after he left so when he saw you changed the locks, he escalated.
A rational conversation could have easily resolved all this but he clearly wasn't interested. You will be better off without him. You got this x
Getting you milk back lots of fluids and high carb foods pasta, rice, porridge, potatoes, bread. For him to blow up like that over a few little arguments over the same thing and to just get everything an go makes me think he's been wanting an excuse to go. The fact he was able to do it in a day means he had the option to go somewhere. You are not asking for the world by wanting to be shown you are loved. Showing you are loved doesn't need to be flowers it can be anything at random time not just on special occasions. Keep your chin up mama. You'll get through this x
Keep the doors locked.
Or if you want him back be tough and state your list
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