I’m now a little over 2 months postpartum and I’ve struggled with genuinely just not liking my partner anymore since we found out I was pregnant last year. I catch myself just staring at him with hatred because I’m so sick and tired of his bullshit. He is just now getting a job and has not had one since THANKSGIVING!!! Meanwhile I was working full time until I finally got too sick to be able to work. I genuinely want him out of my house but I depend on him as far as driving goes bc I don’t have a car. I also still love him deep down and don’t want to put him out on the street but he’s driving me genuinely insane. Any advice?
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No advice but you’re not alone! I’ve always felt like it’s absolutely infuriating that as women, our lives pretty much completely change as soon as we find out we’re pregnant but for a lot of men, they don’t really *start* making those real changes until the baby arrives. And then by the time they do, we’ve already figured out how to do things without them 😂
My advice is to start taking steps toward getting yourself a license and a car, and then when you have a bit more independence and don’t feel like you need him as much, decide if you still want to be with him. Maybe by then you’ll feel better about him, but if not then you can at least say you’ve given it a lot of effort

Be careful; there's a high likelihood that the lion's share of these feelings are hormonal 🫂 this may be a good time for therapy/counseling both as a couple (if he's willing.. a lot of guys see therapy as admitting to being a "failure") or just for you to decipher your root feelings and get advice on how to communicate them in a productive way.. ❤️❤️❤️