Mother in law never knows when to back off

We have a 4 month old little girl
My partner is an only child
Up until now I have raised our child on my own 24/7
My partner until the last day spent probably 15 mins a day with her

Cut the story short

Mother in law sent me a post on Facebook about having an empty cup, allowing others to help so my cup wasn't over flowing.
To which I replied unless her son helps out with our daughter, my cup will always be over flowing

She then wrote me a message about how her son has no experience with babies and he will probably be better when she's a toddler

I blew my top
Told my partner if im doing this alone then l might as well be single
He's great with chores but rubbish with our daughter

After my blow up, he has done better
However I can't seem to move past the mil
I'm sick of her excuses
Her constant sending ideas
Asking daily for photos.

Not sure what I want people to say
I needed to offload

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My mil was always sticking her nose in, saying I should be doing this and that, refused to help with baby, has hardly held my son since he was born, always causing stress and drama and unwanted ideas etc I decided to cut her out my life best thing I ever did

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Just be honest with her and tell her

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unfortunately my partner is a mummy's boy
So cutting her out of my life would be impossible x

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you just don't see her with him only he sees his mum that's what I've done and she doesn't see my baby boy either

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she comes over every two weeks x

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Boundaries is key. Don't be afraid to say no and don't be afraid to be viewed as the bad guy. Took me years to finally set boundaries with my in laws. It's hard because they will try to dismantle your boundaries. Once you set them stand strong and firm. They will look for weaknesses and not take you seriously if you can't keep your boundaries. And sometimes not every action needs a response, protect yourself.

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