Intimacy

We were intimate about 3 or 4 times a month but we are just lazy and have more fun just being to get her than having sex alot. Idk I think everyone is different and have different priorities. We've been married 6 years and known each other for 17 yrs.

Honestly my fiance and I have sex everyday, we both have a high sex drive! I dont think theres really a "normal" when it comes to sex but I do feel sex plays a big roll in a relationship/marriage because it's a form of intimacy with your partner. Alot of times I think the sex drive can decrease because life gets in the way or maybe because things need to be spiced up...maybe try lingerie,toys, different positions. Have times where you're spontaneous and change the scenery of where you have sex,have times where you just focus on him and pleasing him. Theres alot that can be done just be open minded. Hope this helps some! Hope things get better for ya🙂

Most days but there is no pattern

I haven’t had sex since the day I had got pregnant so it’s been 5 months

Before our LG we was practically every day. After she arrived it all went downhill with exhaustion and hormones crashing.
Things picked Back up after a year but now currently 16weeks pregnant again an he is lucky to get anything from me 1nxe a week. 🤣 we have been together 7 years. X

Most nights, if not then no less than around 4x a week, been together 4years

I have a low sex drive and also have no privacy so maybe once or twice a week.

Typically once a week, twice if spicy. Been together about 14 years n had already sown a bunch of oats before that so the drives kinda petered out. Also, when the humans were tiny there were long stretches betwixt, up to 2-3 weeks.

We like to make time everyday. If it's not sex, we're just emotionally invested. Mama needs a break 🤣 Don't forget to just take time for each other!❤

Over a year lol I wouldn't worry 🤣🤣

Once a month. I have no sex drive except right after my period so..... Hubby would like more so I'm working on it but it's still only once a month. We've been together 17 years

I've hit a right bump. I used to have a pretty high sex drive. And after my first daughter i still had it but my partners dropped. Then went after my second I've completely lost any sex drive but he's getting in the mood. I feel awful because i just don't even think about sex, it doesn't cross my mind and when he makes a move i feel like I'm too stressed about the house work out my uni work that i just don't want to. I need to sort out out though because at this rate we won't be having sex before Christmas 😂😂😂😂

I don’t have a very high sex drive and I also have some medical issues that make sex painful for me a lot of the time. My husband haven’t had intercourse since I got pregnant (I’m 26 weeks) but we’re intimate in other ways. Even before we started TTC, we only had sex maybe once every 6 weeks? Again, we did other things instead though😊

Thank goodness for and 😆 Been nearly a year for us too. I'm on a lot of antidepressants (long term), plus had a risky pregnancy so my obgyn said not to. I feel bad coz I used to be super active, but meds and mumma life has just killed it 🤦‍♀️😅

Yeah like almost never… since I had the baby

Like 2-3 times a month lol baby’s not even here yet 😂

Haven’t had sex since I was like 10 weeks and I’m 26 weeks now. Before getting pregnant, we probabsly had sex once a month or once every two months. I’m 26, hes 33. We have been together for 5 years, married for 2 and idk we just aren’t super sexual I guess?? We both are fine with the amount we have so I guess that’s good!!

I’m 8mos pregnant so it’s way down from what it used to be…honestly I could probably count the times we’re had sex this pregnancy on both hands.

Meh once a week does the job lol maybe twice if I happen to have the energy 😂

37 weeks pregnant and we’re having sex every other day. If I am sexually frustrated it effects my moods so we make sure we always make time for intimacy.

I’d say 3 times a week at least. It was the same before being pregnant but I’ve actually felt better whilst being pregnant and sound my sex drive is higher like it was in the beginning of our relationship so it’s been a good time for us. I’m more worried about how long it’s going to take to be able to have sex again after baby. 😂

Used to be sexual encounters 4-5 times a week with penetrative intercourse being maybe 2 of those. But that was after 10 years in and pre-pregnancy. Now it’s about once a week, and maybe half of those are penetrative. We’ve had spells of doing it every day and one streak of almost 2 weeks without (we were both sick). If you’re both satisfied and feeling intimate, there’s no problem. But if you need more (connection or orgasms) I’m a big fan of one partner cuddling the other during masturbation if there’s a mismatch of desire. I also think a certain percentage of the sex should be “gourmet” IE very involved and satisfying emotionally, so you can get by with quickies the rest of the time.

I think after you have kids, sex and intimacy just slows down without you even realizing it! For us we have always been pretty active, normal for us is like 3 times a week. We are very affectionate with each other too, any chance we get we try to take advantage of it. Even if we are dog tired! We get some espresso and find that energy!

Its definitely less now I'm in the 3rd trimester. I'm just too tired and it doesn't feel the same atm. Plus my son keeps having parties in my belly and it's really distracting 🤣🤣🤣

I have really struggled with sex during pregnancy due to feeling uncomfortable constantly.. and my sex drive is GONE. we maybe have sex every two weeks… and even then I’m not all in it.. it’s sucks and I miss the nice intimate times. I just tell myself it will get better and we have so much more time to get it on. Haha

Sadly once a week if that. I want it more than he does. He's always tired. Wish it was 3-4x a week. We have a houseful of kids with our youngest being 2. prior to our youngest, the kids never stop us. It used to be all the time. 😭

About 5-6 times a week our youngest is 16 weeks old now then we have a 15 month old a 15 year old and a 21 year old lol

We haven’t since I was 6 months pregnant and my daughter is now 3 months. My sex drive completely went away after I had my baby.

I had complications at the beginning of my pregnancy so we were told to hold off on sex. By the time I was cleared I was so big it was uncomfortable. Since giving birth I can probably count on my hands how many times we've had sex and my daughter is 7 months old. I don't have the drive like I used to and when I am in the mood, it's like she knows and gets separation anxiety every time I put her down.

We’re 31 weeks along now, but I’ve had a horrible time with my sex drive this entire pregnancy! Pre-pregnancy it was probably 6x a week, and now we’re lucky if it’s once a week. And that’s with my husband doing a lot of work to get me in the mood!

Me and my husband used to sex all the time. We did it every time we saw each other. Then I got pregnant I was still the same way. We had sex during. After. Then, got pregnant again (34 weeks) now. We haven’t had sex until before I was pregnant. And I don’t think we will anytime soon. After having kids things changed and we used to do it all the time now we don’t at all.

Not often tbh as he works nites and no has my daughter during day so don't really have a lot of time for it

My daughter is 3

Not a lot. Once in 10 days sounds about right for us. I’ve been with my husband 8 years (married almost 3). We’re young too (both 26).
It’s not that I’m not attracted to him. I’m just so tired. And after a long day a lot of times spending the evening cuddling and talking is a more valuable form of intimacy to me than actual sex
Every so often I realize oh shit it’s been a LONG time, and I make an effort to initiate.

Once a month for us... my husband works nights, we gave a near 2yo, I work and run a business from home. Between wrangling a toddler, the dog, work and keeping the house semi-tidy neither of us have the energy tbh.
To be honest, I don't enjoy it all that much anymore (not that my husband is bad, I just genuinely can go without and not miss it).
Even pre baby it was only a few times a month tbh. Strange as the first year or so of being together we were like rabbits. As soon as we got married it just stopped 🤣

About once very two weeks. I'm just to tired and plus my kids bust in eeeeevery night so it's hard to get in the mood and relax

I think we’ve had sex less times than I can count on one hand since I first got pregnant. My son is 6 months old. And honestly I have no desire to change that. 🤷🏼‍♀️

my baby is 18 weeks weve hardly had sex as its agony for me the first time we did it wasnt sore but everytime since we tried its agony i got to 7cm and needed emergency section feel ill have normal sex again

This is an interesting question and I feel many moms are in the same boat. Some moms have a high sex drive but usually those moms have it a little easier or should I say less on their plate. For the moms who do it all it's very different. So I think the situation you in also plays a role in your sex drive. Lol if I had someone cleaning my house all day and someone watching my kid while I worked from home I would be good to go every day lol but that's not the case. Its cleaning all day, work from home while still being a stay at home mom while finishing a degree and it ain't easy when you sleep deprived cause teething is currently the death of me. I think it helps when your partner is supportive and know that it's always a mutual thing. We have weeks were its every second night, we have weeks where its once during the week and come weekend we like bunny rabbits and we have times were the whole week we haven't done anything. As it's always depending on our schedule and energy level.

Well to be honest it sounds really weird although me and my fiance have a child together we both decided to stop having sex until we get married I know it probably doesn't make sense

Started off once a week, then once a month and now he hasn't touched me since July 2020. I used to beg and guilt him into it until he told me I was no better than a rapist. So now I have to wait for him to be in the mood and I can't say "no" because who knows when I will get anything again, and when he is in the mood it is in the middle of the night when I am utterly exhausted. But he won't touch me if I am pregnant or nursing or on my period because he thinks that's "disgusting". He also refuses to get his testosterone checked, even though the two times I got him to take supplements for two months each time he had more energy, felt better, and those were the two times I got pregnant after trying for years and years to get pregnant again.

He is now refusing to take supplements again "because he doesn't need them". I guess it is for the best, even thinking about having sex with him again makes my heart literally hurt after the years of making me feel like there was something wrong with me.

I think the answer to this question is different for everyone, and it'll likely change throughout the course of the relationship. Sex drives wax and wane, we get busy, we get horny, life gets in the way. I don't think we should be focusing on the number of times, instead we should focus on the quality of the sex we're having.

I've been married for 18 years. We have 2 kids and we are back at school. We usually have sex 2-3 times per week. Also when we got married was almost every day 🤣 remember good sex and good food you will always keep him with you 😉

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Maybe 1-2 times a month. I never thought we would be like this but here we are

before pregnancy…weekly? Now, uhhhh, whats sex again? 😂 I feel like everyone is diff though! Don’t bother comparing to others, so long as its enough for you and your partner. We all know when it’s not 👍

About 3 times in the last 7 months I've been pregnant....before that we were trying to conceive so alot but before that more like once a month to 3 months at most when not trying. Used to be more but we've been together 5 years now, married in April and can't say it appeals most of the time

Thank you all for comments, I’ve been reading them all! It’s nice to see that some people are going through similar situations. And I see that everyone’s different and maybe we really should not compare and there’s no “normal” but rather what works for your marriage/relationship. I think both partners should be comfortable and satisfied in a relationship and should be able to communicate their needs and hear each other. We have sex once in a week-10 days and that’s not enough for me and I’ve been trying to talk about it with my husband and to work on it myself. I am hoping he’ll hear me out. (I am not pregnant at the moment btw, for those who asked. I have a 16 mo son). Anyway, thank you again ladies for your answers❤️

Ours is 3-4 times a week on a bad week usually daily and this can be anytime morning before work, when we go to bed or in the middle of the night the last few days my partner has wanted it twice a night we have had to make some changes as I'm now 19 weeks pregnant so finding new ways to make it comfortable for me although I do feel very content that he still finds me attractive with such a big bump already xx

Never. I am almost 6 weeks postpartum and I never want to touch him again. It’s weird lol