Gender disappointment:(

I know of someone who had a similar experience (of which she was very open to discussing!). She found out she was having a boy but had subconsciously been hoping for a baby girl. Anyway, when she found out she said she actually felt as though she was grieving for the baby girl and it took her some time to accept that she would have a boy. Her baby boy is now 1 year old and she couldn’t imagine her life without him! It’s ok to feel disappointed but it’s not good to feel pressured into pretending you are happy. Is it possible to keep the news private until you have processed your emotions? Congratulations on your healthy pregnancy. 💖

I am the least offended. When I was early on I was judging the gender disappointment. But I'm about to have my gender scan and I can feel myself day dreaming about a little girl. When before I was pregnant all I wanted was a boy. I don't want to be disappointed but I might feel it.

It's ok to feel disappointed. When I was having my second son I was certain he was a girl I had a whole life planned for my son and 'daughter'. When I found out I was having a boy I was heart broken, but I got past it and honestly I am so glad now. I wouldn't change him for the world. Congratulations on your baby and don't be too hard on yourself

100% ok to feel dissapointed and no one should be offended. I didn’t used to understand the gender dissapointment then I read a story about how it’s grief for a future or a dream of sorts you had planned. You don’t need to pretend, you’re greatful, you’ll still love the baby but you’re allowed to be upset and greave the future you had envisioned. Sending lots of love 💕

I understand. I always thought of myself as a girl's mother since my mother was so was a bit shocked to have a boy! Now I'm envisioning having all boys but trying not to think that way too much as I know it's possible I'll have a girl next. For me it's just not something I'm used to so it's harder to imagine what life will be like. Congratulations though!

I have a 3 year old girl and was so convinced this baby was a boy and wanted a boy so desperately and had names picked out. I found out Christmas when we did our gender reveal it’s another girl. I was so disappointed. It’s gotten a bit easier but I still feel moments of sadness and disappointment and have to really try to turn my mood around and it’s hard to imagine what life will be like with another girl. I’m just trying to adjust to this new and just take it day by day

I totally understand, I was you when I found out I was pregnant with my little boy, I already have a boy and wanted a girl. I have 3 brothers 2 sister and they all have boys, my mother was born in a boy family as well so I kinda knew I was having a boy but secretly wishing it was a girl. It took me a couple of days to accept it but now I couldn’t fathom a girl now, I’m totally in love with him and he’s not out yet. It’s alright to be disappointed

It really surprises me how common it is to have gender disappointment. I've said from day one I just want the baby to be happy and healthy and don't care what I'm having, however I know deep down a little part of me would love a little girl for many reasons. I don't think I will be disappointed if its a boy especially with it being my first, however I am such a mummy's girl that if we had a 2nd and it was a boy again I do think id be sad at never having a daughter. I would still love the baby with all my heart but I'm sure I will be sad for a bit and I think that's quite normal and common. I liked the comment above which mentioned about missing the life you thought you'd have and I definitely think that's true. I think its important not to feel ashamed of how you feel and just to be open with those close to you as the feeling won't last forever. X

I understand it must hurt when you've had in your head it would work out one way, but it's not going to be like that. But I'm sure you just need some time to adjust and I'm sure you'll come to terms with it and start getting excited all over again! Lots of love 💕

It’s okay it happens i was disappointed when i found out i was having a little boy everyone different. Some people just don’t care they’re just happy everyone different

Completely normal! I knew my baby was a boy from the day I found out. My fiancés whole family is all boys. 6/6 of his uncles were boys, and his dad had two kids, both boys. So I was 100% sure it was a boy. Got the blood gender test done super early (8weeks) and found out it was a boy. I was so devastated. Cried and cried and cried. At my 20 week ultrasound it was concerned again that it was a boy. Cried and cried all over again. I’m now 36w2d pregnant and couldn’t be more excited to have a little boy! I have finally settled into knowing I’m always gonna be a boy mom, and honestly I’ve never been more relived. I do still get sad sometimes when I walk through target and see all the cute girls clothes knowing I’m never gonna be able to use them, but then it quickly goes away and I’m reminded of just how precious my little man is! It’ll get better don’t worry!

Completely normal! I felt the same way! We did IVF and only got two embryos and both survived, we found out both were boys. I was really sad that day because I had these ideas in my head. But it didn't last and now I'm ecstatic to meet my baby boy in a month. Don't be too hard on yourself momma.

I have one girl my oldest then 5 boys in a row..think I cried at the third time finding out hahaha so believe me the feeling will pass after baby is born hang in there

I was crying when I found out it is a boy because I was 100 % sure it’s s Girl. But honestly it only took me a day and now I’m super happy. I think it’s Just the same with you, you were sure it’s a boy and your mind was set up like that so I think it’s normal and you won’t feel like this soon

I know how you feel... I have 3 boys and the last one I was praying so hard for a girl! I love him so much and I'm glad he is who he is, but I still wish I would have had a girl one of those pregnancies

You planned a future 🙄🤣 okay 👍🏻

I understand the feeling but think about it like it was meant to be. It was meant to be for you to have a boy and a girl and that’s okay. That baby girl wanted to join your family 💖

Very normal. It can take time to get your head round a new reality and grieve for an imagined future. Be kind to yourself x

I was the same when I found out I was having a boy! I was really down about it as I imagined having two girls but now he's here I genuinely wouldn't change him, he's so perfect. Xx

My whole life has been nothing but a boy mom when my son turned 20 I got pregnant with my daughter. It freaked me out. But girls are the best secret blessing that you could ever have. such a different world. just wait you'll see.💜💜

I felt the same way when I found out but when I saw her face in the 3d ultrasound I fell in love. It’s just important to remember that that little bundle of joy will have you wrapped around her finger and every moment will be an awesome memory you don’t expect. Hang in there momma!

Girl I’m expecting rn and I’m so nervous I’m going to have another boy and I’m literally going to be pissseddd. Like I see the gender reveals where girls get mad and I judge them so hard but I understand now. I’m going to love my baby regardless even if it is another boy but I want a girl 😭😭😭

I'm so happy that I'm not alone, omg! I always wanted 2 girls, i was sooo convinced my second would be a girl, had a name pick out and all. When i got the reveal I was sooo disappointed and almost pisted. It's shameful to think this way, from my perspective. But that's not what I wanted. My boy is now 4 months, my goodness do I love him! He is such an easy baby compared to my girl, love him soo soo much. I did grieve the lost I never had, but I still feel like there's a piece missing. Having him was just an added surprise to my already busy life 💙

I wanted a girl originally. I had the nursery theme picked out and everything (ballerinas and swans lol) and my husband and I agreed and girl names actually. But I found out it was a boy and now I wouldn't have it any other way. It'll end up the best once you get there

It’s so normal and once baby gets here it will all work out 🥰

I STILLLLL feel sad when I see all the baby girl clothes and I have to be buying the baby boys! Hopefully it will pass when he is born

It is difficult to see your future now but you're right. You keep the focus on how healthy and grateful you are to be pregnant again! All the best💖

It's normal and ok to feel this way xx 💕

Think about all the amazing woman in your life. Your little girl is going to be that to someone to someone one day.

I really wanted a boy too, but who run the world? Girls

Also, think if all the fun things you can do together that you can’t do with a son. That helped me a lot.

I know how you feel. I found out super early with both if mine, though. The first one I was happy with it being a boy, and I love him. But the second I was kind of hoping would be a girl, so I could have one of each. I was envisioning cute clothes and girly stuff. We actually planned a surprise gender reveal for my best friend to tell us, but it was accidentally spoiled to me ahead of the reveal. When I saw "boy" I was genuinely disappointed. It's been a while since, so I've accepted it and am excited now.

It is normal to be disappointed. Just don't dwell there and find the positive. Girl clothes are so much cuter, and now you can enjoy the big brother, little sister dynamic 🥰

It is real, but it will pass and you will love your little girl to pieces. I really wanted a 2nd boy and was gutted when scan showed a girl. She is here now and is adorable. I think of you picture things in your head for a long time, its hard when the reality is different. Just take a bit of time to deal with your disappointment...it will go and you will have a gorgeous baby girl and forget about it, in time x

Sorry you're disappointed but thunk of it this way ... their gender is just what bits they have.

It by no means, means she will act like a she... they all have different personalities

Good luck in the future

I wanted 2 girls so they’d be as close as me and my sister. I was shocked when they said I was carrying a boy as all my boys passed before 12w gestation. Omg having one of each is AMAZING! My daughter and I are very close we will be all our lives, like I am with my mother. Think of all the bonuses of a daughter. “A daughter is your daughter all your life, your son is your son til he finds a wife” it’s likely that you’ll be more involved in the raising of her kids. You can do girly things together. Omg the sassiness will have you in a wrinkle on the floor. And when you see your husband with clips in his hair and your daughter applying lipstick to him, you’ll spontaneously ovulate 🙈🤣 the connection between them will be so heart warming you’ll think about another one x

I felt like that too when I realised I was having a boy, not because I didn't want a boy but because in our culture there would be blatant differences between a girl and boy (my first is a girl). I had anxiety and almost dreaded him arriving. But I absolutely love being a mum of one of each. You get thr best of both worlds. When she arrives you will get used to her, and love her. As she grows you'll be able to do girly things together, plate her piggytails and dress her up. Girls are so much fun to dress up! Try refocusing your mind and think of all the great things! Lots of love from a mama who has one of each xxx

It’s ok to feel disappointed momma, no judgment around here💯 we are here for you!

It doesn't matter what I have as long as the baby is healthy 😊

Hang in there I really think you’re gonna enjoy having a girl! My son is going to be 20 this year yes 20 years old and I have a 2 1/2 year-old baby girl and it is two different worlds from a boy and a girl and I absolutely adore my little girl she saved my life literally I gave her life and she saved mine funny how that worked out🤗

Hey on the bright side i was a tomboy til i was over 30 and had my own babygurl there are so many different styles out there i promise abs gender neutral clothes!! Try local thrift shops and create your own baby style!!! I LIVE IN THRIFT SHOPS!!

I want to reassure you that this is so normal. I have three boys (twins and singleton). When I found out the sex of my last baby I was devastated. Then I felt awful about being devastated.

In the end he was so perfect. He is just the best addition to our family. I am now expecting baby number 4 and we have decided not to find out this time. I just think the heartache is so unnecessary because you don’t feel that way when they are born xx

I totally feel you. When we found out we were having a boy, the first words out of my mouth were “fuck.” My husband and I dreamed (for years) of having two beautiful little girls. He already has a daughter so we knew he was capable. We were so disappointed and upset for days. My (step) mother in law shamed me so bad for being disappointed and going through a bout of depression and disconnection from the baby. She said it was disgusting. Obviously that made me feel worse since her sons wife is delightedly having a girl 3 weeks before us. It’s the absolute worst. However we have come around to having a boy and are excited. I would still prefer a girl with all the stress of circumcision and everything, but I am connecting more with my little boy. I imagine him looking like my husband and just melting into how beautiful he will be. Meanwhile my husband says we are trying again immediately for a girl…. It’s still really disappointing at times

I just had my gender reveal last night. I honestly thought I would be having a baby girl, hubby wanted same but I appreciate God for giving me a boy regardless.

We can trade lol I have two boys and I was hoping for a girl because this is my last pregnancy but nope its another boy 😂