How to juggle two kids

I was raised an only child, so i have no idea what it’s like to have siblings. My husband and I had a baby, who is now 19 months old, and he wants a second child. I don’t mind having a second baby because i don’t want my daughter to grow up an only child like me, but how do you juggle two kids? I feel like the baby books helped a lot with raising my daughter (mind you I know books don’t prepare you 100% but it came with good advice), but is there any advice or books i can read to prepare for two kids? For instance, can I bring both children to pediatrician appointments? How do I find a schedule to squeeze in sleep in the beginning of the newborn stage? How do you deal with jealousy from the older sibling over the new baby? ...Basically how do you balance the chaos that comes with two kids?

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I have a 14 month old son and a 3 month old son. It’s hard at times. Don’t get me wrong. But I honestly feel like in my case having a second child definitely made us whole. My oldest does get jealous. That happens. But i learned he’s very independent. He doesn’t want what a newborn wants sadly. But that’s what dads are for. My oldest loves my husband because they get to play a lot. With me I try to make time when I can. Whether it’s sleeping with or what. Newborns they sleep a lot. So when they sleep you and your oldest can sleep too. You can’t prepare yourself fully. But it’s worth it. I hope that helps a bit.

It’s hard to juggle when they both need you at the same time, but my older one is interested in the younger one so we often end up doing things together. Mealtimes are hard, getting out of the house is hard, and trying to put the toddler down for a nap with the baby around is hard.
But for the most part the baby just gets dragged along for whatever the toddler wants to do, and it works out fine

There’s lots of “oh no baby sister crying, we need check on her” and “here you go baby sister, dis make you happy?”, “haha mommy it make her laugh!”. The baby is almost like a living doll sometimes 😂

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I'm so not meant to be a mother.

My kids won't listen to me get into stuff when they know they aren't supposed to. Telling me no all the time. Only listen to their dad. Laughs when I correct them. I spend most of my time yelling at them because they don't want to listen to me at all. My husband said that I shouldn't have kids. And I am believing him on it. I was never meant to be a mother now. I won't hurt my kids I just want to disappear and make everyone else's lives better without me.

One and done… or not?

32ftm. I’m starting to feel so much pressure to have another baby soon as I wean from breastfeeding so they can be close in age and be friends, but I don’t feel ready for pregnancy and newborn trenches again 😭 my husband and I are all we’ve got. Having just one baby without a village has been really tough. Am I being unrealistic wanting another one soon?

Baby #2??

I really want baby number 2 and am thinking of doing it via IUI as a solo mama!
Has anyone had any experiences with it 👀

Tests

So I had a blood test at the drs bc I keep getting positive tests when the blood test was negative what could this mean? Hubby says the tests are negative and said he can’t see anything. Negative image down below.

Am I pregnant?

I lightly spotted almost 5 days ago, which is not common for me before my period.
My period was supposed to come today. I should have tested in the morning but its 5:30pm.
Is there a second line??

Anyone have this happen before?

We were not trying to conceive, used protection and had sex on week 2 of my cycle (accidentally on my peak ovulation day). Week 3 we had Flu A. Week 4 my period did not come (it’s very regular). I tested and it was negative (2 different brands).
What should have been week 2 of my next cycle (now 6 weeks post last period), I had light red/ pink spotting for one day when I wiped. The following week, I tested again, still negative, but this time almost all the dye was in the negative space, which I’ve never seen happen before. The area where it shows one horizontal line for negative and a plus sign for positive, the horizontal line was super faded at the 3 minute mark, and the negative vertical line in the next window was VERY dark. Now I’m on week 8 of all this, period did not show up yesterday. Nothing in my life has changed (no additional stress, no other illness, no changes in diet or exercise, etc).

Has anyone gone through this and NOT been pregnant? I’m super nervous as we thought we were done having kids.

PS. I know I should go get a blood test, does anyone know if urgent care will do that? I’m past being convinced by a pee test.