HELP! We cannot get our toddler in the car seat!

How do we make our toddler get in the car seat? When he was 7mo he started “fighting” (arched his back and turned his body) being put in anything that constrained him - car seats, stroller, and even the high-chair. This would come and go for weeks at a time and at the beginning we could distract him with toys, playful things, music, videos, etc.
Well, about a month ago we went to his 12-month wellness visit when he was held down for shots. Immediately after leaving the clinic he started fighting to go in the car seat and it took us 50min of trying. Since then we have tried to create good associations by going to fun places, but he fights it every single time and it takes least 30min to put him in the car seat.
He hasn’t gone anywhere and we are really limited in what we can do with him. I cannot tell you how many times we got ready to leave the house just to give up and not go anywhere with him. I think it doesn’t help that because of the pandemic we haven’t gone to many places with him since he was born, but this is definitely making it much worse.

Has anyone experienced this? What has worked for you and your little one?

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Mine was the same way! We had to fold her and force her into the car seat. It was AWFUL! We started bribing ours with a tablet in the car and that became the only place she got to watch any tv. We got out more and of course had many, many fits. But slowly, it started getting better. Hang in there mama! I know how hard it is. Also don’t listen to any of the “babies usually like cars…” comments. We got so many of those. I hope it gets better!!

This is a power struggle issue. Make sure he has plenty of running and exercise prior to going in it. Empathize with his feelings if he is upset going in “ I know you don’t want to be buckled and it’s so hard sitting still in the car I get it, it’s okay to be frustrated “ help his take deep breaths to calm him down. ( this works for most tantrums but not melt downs those you have to wait out. Explain once calm that mommy has to buckle and everyone else in the car to stay safe. Ask him if he can help you pick a song on the radio once buckled or play the arms up down game. Have snacks and drinks and say first buckle then snack and drink. Make sure it’s something he really likes. Always prep before had what you will be doing so they are prepared for what is to come. I think all parents struggle with this. My son was a fighter until I started doing these things now he gets in no problem. Another good one is asking if they want to climb in or u put them in. Choices and empathy go a long wa

Mine did this for a while. It helps to loosen the straps so you can get them buckled while they are arching and then slowly tighten it and push them down. Once my son realized it wasn’t stopping us from getting in the car seat he stopped.

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No sitter but cant let myself go into postpartum depression

Brought my little girl to my lash appointment she was so well behaved thank god !!!! Any other mamas end up bringing their kid to their maintenance appointments ?

Cancelling Easter…

So my step son (11) lives with us full time we’ve started with an issue of him stealing little stuff from school, taking his brothers clothes from his mums here without anyone knowing ect but now
He’s also got the habit of taking chocolate and crisps out the kitchen to the point of he’s eating all my 1 year olds snacks like the 6month+ wafers and then he’s got no snacks. I’m buying loads of stuff to last us the month and he’s going through them within less then a week 🫠 (he never gets told no to snacks either unless it’s just before a meal then he gets told to wait until after hes ate)
He has now gone through all the chocolate we hid for Easter that was also his two little brothers and he’s gone through the stuff my mum brought round for them. So now iv got just over a week with hardly any money to try and get all the Easter stuff back. We’ve sat and spoke about it and why he feels like need to just take and we get a “i don’t know” or “it’s just snacks”

My thing is should I re buy him Easter stuff or leave it as a “you’ve already had you Easter early behind our backs” he’s not missing out completely because he has Easter at his mums but I feel like there’s nothing more we can do other then put locks on cabinets so he can’t get in them but that’s just stopping him from getting to the thing he wants not necessarily him learning 🤷🏻‍♀️
My partners just in that “can’t be arsed” “just replace it” where we have 1 child together and 2 step children and a baby on the way so just constantly going out and replacing stuff really isn’t happening ☹️ he’s agreeing with not giving him anything for Easter but I feel guilty about it but he has teqnically had his Easter + more…

We have also spoken to his mum about it and she just says she has locks on the doors and she did it as a kid and laughs about it which just feels like shes validating what he’s doing.

Sorry for the rant just wanted to see other people opinions and views as I feel so guilty to cancel Easter for him but at the same time we don’t have the money to re buy everything he’s gone through 🫠

Am I doing something wrong?

I went for brunch with a new mum friend, both our little boys are 7 months. My LO would not sit at and tbh he rarely does, he had just had a feed and nap, I also offered him a banana which he had half of and convinced him to play with multiple toys but he either wanted to bounce on my lap or for me to walk around with him and eventually got cranky/whingy. I wasn’t able to finish my food. The other LO was sitting calmly the whole time and chewing on his teether. I even offered my LO a teether. Am I doing something wrong, am I spoiling him by picking him up constantly if he’s not crying and just whinging 😅

Weaning

My baby girl is almost 7 months old and we've been trying to wean her for a month, but she refuses to eat the food she'll play with the food and maybe if we're lucky suck on some of it. Am I doing something wrong or is this normal

Just a rant

Being a primary parent sucks sometimes.

I love my daughter more than anything but I feel this world is not built for primary parents.

I work from home (thankfully) part time. My partner works full time but he's in meetings or calls all day.

My daughter has a medical condition which causes her to be sent home from nursery frequently. So it isn't unusual for me to be working, parenting, cleaning and cooking all in one day.

I'm exhausted. I can't have any more dependants leave because I'm only a couple of more incidents away from a disciplinary. We aren't in a financial position for me to quit work either.

The world wants more babies, but isn't prepared to support mothers or primary parents. It sucks.

Is yogurt enough breakfast for a 7month old?

I'm really struggling with weaning and feeling like I'm failing my child.

I've always just been a cereal for breakfast skip lunch kinda person.

If you have advice or easy ideas please drop them below.

I'm also struggling with PPD so I'm really struggling with motivation when it comes to cooking etc.