Our EBF 6mo has slept in our bed from around 2am onwards for several months to save my sanity. He goes down without a problem in his cot at 7.30, wakes every 2 hours but easy to settle until around 2am. I've loved bedsharing but we need to get him into his own cot as I have a shoulder problem that is getting worse. Also my husband thinks the longer we continue, the harder it will be to stop. I've tried feeding to sleep, rocking, holding until deep sleep then transferring but every time he wake screaming when he touches the cot mattress. This can go on for 2 hours sometimes. If I continue bedsharing and gritting my teeth through the discomfort, will we pass this 2am wall naturally or does it need more work to get there? And realistically how long does it take to transition? Any help from anyone that has done it would be greatly appreciated, you may save my shoulder and my marriage! Thank you
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Are you struggling with your shoulder because of making the c shape around him? It sounds like he’s just not ready to sleep away from you and forcing it is likely to be really stressful. You could just keep practicing that first stint of sleep in the cot and as it becomes harder for him to settle during the night

Thank you, over the last few days I've accepted that I love bedsharing and the cot will come when he's ready. It's worth the discomfort for the cuddles!