FEELING LIKE A COMPLETE FAILURE MOTHER 😔

So I feel like an absolute complete failure of a mother as my daughter is turning 4 in December and she still is struggling, refusing to use the toilet and she is fussy eating her food and her tantrum, meltdowns have me literally curled up in a corner sobbing in tears as I feel like I'm letting her down.

I would love for any help or advice as I just don't know what to do and I feel like I'm letting her daughter down.

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Firstly, how are you? I noticed that this was posted 7 days.

Would you say that your daughter is strong willed? x

Hi Sarah,
I want to say my daughter is very stubborn in the last week she has decided to just do poos an wees on the floor instead of the toilets or potty

Oh no! I'm really sorry that this is happening. Would it be worth speaking to your health visitor or, school nurse or pediatrician? Just I think you need support to help overcome this.

Also you may be able to get support from this charity too;

https://eric.org.uk/potty-training/problems/

It sounds more of a behavior issue more than shes not willing or able to potty train. I know these kids sure pull at our hearts. The eating thing is totally normal. Kids are picky, they find foods they like and will only eat them. I would reach out to her doctor for advice. Hang in there and be easy on yourself.

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