Please read!! I need an outsiders perspective. Am I being paranoid??
I picked up my daughter from nursery, and on the way home she pulled her pants down in public, turned around and showed me her anus by pulling apart her buttocks. I was shocked so snapped at her to pull her pants up. I apologised straight away and said I had just had a bad day a work. I then calmly asked who taught her to do that, and she said X. She has mentioned X many times before but I always assumed X was a child. So I asked is X a child or a teacher, and she said a teacher. I said is X a man or woman, she said woman. I said where did she teach you that and she said “in the bedroom”, and I said the nursery doesn’t have a bedroom, and she said “they do upstairs”. The nursery is in a large Victorian house, but I’ve never seen the rooms upstairs, so have no idea if this is true or not, but I don’t think nurseries have bedrooms?
Anyway, I said what else did X do and my daughter opened her mouth and stuck her tongue out and began licking her lips round and round. I’ve never seen her do something like that before. She then said X bounced her bum on her leg. I was kneeling down at the time to speak to her and she turned around and sat on one of my legs with her legs either side and bounced on my legs and said “like this”.
My daughter does tell lies, but not like this, this was really strange. She was getting annoyed with my questions so I stopped and called my partner. He phoned the manager straight away but it’s Friday so her phone was off and the nursery was closed, so he sent a message.
I can’t stop thinking about what she has said. I feel like I can’t put her back into that nursery until I find out why she is saying these things? Have your children ever said anything like this? I’m hoping someone says yes and this is all just some kind of mistake. Maybe it’s something strange children say and this is just me being too much and paranoid? What do you think?
Husband wants to go away daughter’s first weekend after starting primary school
Hi all,
Just looking for some advice / guidance. My husband has been invited to go away to Barcelona from Friday 4th September to Monday 7th September for one of his best mates 50th birthday. My daughter starts primary school on Thursday 3rd September and we have a 7 month old daughter as well. He told me this yesterday and it felt like he was just letting me know that he was going, however I have some reservations. I am conscious that this is a big transition for my daughter and she does struggle with transitions. It takes her quite a while to warm up to new people (but once she does, she loves them forever!). I am also conscious that if I’m on my own that weekend then I am not going to be able to give her as much attention as normal as I’ll be looking after her sister as well. He’s already celebrated this friend’s 50th in London a few weeks ago so this is an additional celebration and he’s been out a lot since our youngest was born. I’m not one to say no, but I’ve been having issues with him recently about it not feeling like he puts family first and this just feels like one thing he should say no to so that we can make sure our daughter feels safe and secure whilst she starts a new school with new kids, new teachers, new environment. Any thoughts very much welcome!
Would you move nurseries?
Looking for some advice. My LG is 16 months and has been going to nursery since she was 11 months old. She took a while to settle, does still cry going in but once she’s in, she has a good day.
However, recently they had an ofsted inspection, which resulted in the nursery manager leaving and them sending an email saying the result isn’t what they expected but official result hasn’t been published yet.
We have also moved so the journey to nursery is now 25 each way instead of 10, which isn’t a lot but I have to go back on myself after dropping her at nursery to get to work.
I don’t know whether to move her because she is settled and the staff are amazing with her.
