Jealous of those who have in laws and family

I’m a SAHM and sometimes I’m really envious of those who have sisters, in laws etc who have help with looking after little ones. My in laws live in a different city and aren’t interested in building a relationship with me or my daughter. I also don’t have any sisters/aunts/cousins. I only have an immature little brother and elderly mum who both work full time most days 😭 my husband helps and I’m very grateful but it’s not the same as having another woman helping. But yeah rant over

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Im the same. Its really hard. We are planning to move closer to family and friends because we feel like it will make a big difference.

I am a stay at home mom as well and I totally know how you feel. I do have my mom near me, but I don’t get along with my in-laws or my girls, father family and so far they only seen the girls maybe three times last year because they don’t respect me as their mom and I have asked them for help when his son was getting aggressive and abusive, and they still are not helping me and I’m in a situation where I can’t leave due to the safety of my girls

I don’t have in laws but I have a mom and sister but they both live an hour away and my mom can’t watch my boys anymore just bc of health reasons and my sister has her own family.

I felt this! My mom and little brother are in another state on the other side of the country. My little brother just had his baby 2 weeks after I did. I’m sad that I don’t have them around

Me and my hubby live with his grandparents and parents all in the same big house.. but they don’t even try to help, ask about him or even bother to try and interact with him or us in general. I personally feel more hurt being surrounded by people who don’t want anything to do with him, vs being far away from my family who want to be around to see and help. 😭

I feel you. My husband doesn’t help much and neither does my mother in law. My mom is about 5.5 hours away and sister lives pretty far away. It’s so hard to never get a break

I don’t have anyone either. Not my parents. No siblings, nothing. Just my husband and I, and even then he works a lot and travels out of state. So it’s just me. I try not to compare and think about it and just accept that this is what was meant for me. Anyways a few years ago I had really toxic people in my life including my family and now this is the most peace I’ve had, yeah it’s hard carrying all the load of raising children but it’s all worth it in the end 🥰

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Just a rant really

Today I made a passing comment to my partner regarding a bloke who come to measure up our garden doors to be replaced and said “it’s nice to see a man wearing a wedding ring cover to wear his ring in work” as I know from working with some men in the past they take it off if there’s woman around. More as a freshing thing to see if that makes sense and it come up mid argument it was more of a compliment to the bloke which tipped my partner over the edge saying “oh so we’re on different pages now dishing out compliments to people’ which I said no, I didn’t comment on his looks or that o wanted to sleep with the bloke but he just saw red and said I have to wreck things when they are going good and fuck things up even though I said it’s completely innocent and meant nothing behind it. And stop being such a fuck up. Obviously I know now to keep my mouth shut and I do have an awkward way of explaining things I always have done.
It’s now been 5 hours and he’s barely talked to me

Nursery funding

Does anyone know how the free 30 hours works?
I’m aware you can’t claim if you have an income of over 100k.
Is that as a household income or is it that each parent can’t have an income over 100k?

Hope this makes sense

Husband wants to go away daughter’s first weekend after starting primary school

Hi all,

Just looking for some advice / guidance. My husband has been invited to go away to Barcelona from Friday 4th September to Monday 7th September for one of his best mates 50th birthday. My daughter starts primary school on Thursday 3rd September and we have a 7 month old daughter as well. He told me this yesterday and it felt like he was just letting me know that he was going, however I have some reservations. I am conscious that this is a big transition for my daughter and she does struggle with transitions. It takes her quite a while to warm up to new people (but once she does, she loves them forever!). I am also conscious that if I’m on my own that weekend then I am not going to be able to give her as much attention as normal as I’ll be looking after her sister as well. He’s already celebrated this friend’s 50th in London a few weeks ago so this is an additional celebration and he’s been out a lot since our youngest was born. I’m not one to say no, but I’ve been having issues with him recently about it not feeling like he puts family first and this just feels like one thing he should say no to so that we can make sure our daughter feels safe and secure whilst she starts a new school with new kids, new teachers, new environment. Any thoughts very much welcome!

After how many days of accidents do you give up potty training?

We have started this week, tentatively since Sunday but this is day3 of wearing underwear.
We have some successes with pee but no poos and still around 6 accidents per day.
She seems to go to the potty to pee, does a small one but doesn't finish, then wets herself.
The problem I have is I work full time so she has been at nursery and at my mother in laws, so 2 different settings away from home. I don't have the option to take time off to stay at home currently.
I'm starting to think this isn't a success and to stop 😔 how many days would you give it if you had continued accidents, or would you continue?

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Hey mums…. I’m here to write a little vent, maybe to have somebody say ‘girl same’ or just to even say ‘I hear you’…. But I’m really struggling right now. I currently have an almost 3 year old, a 7 month old and we just found out that we’re expecting again… we’re thrilled beyond words, but me pregnant I just have no patience and man oh man is my toddler testing me. I have found myself just more and more completely losing it at my toddler when she’s just doing normal things like resting boundaries, asking questions, doing things to keep me in the room longer at bedtime. Normally I can manage okay, but hubby is gone some nights and when I’m doing it alone, is when I seem to have no patience and I just yell at her.

Tonight was a bad night for me, I had my 7 month old in bed by 7pm!! Great right? Well my toddler decided she wanted a different cup and to do so it meant dragging the dinning room chair across the floor, I asked her to stop, she didn’t listen, I asked her to stop again nicely as it’ll wake sissy, she still didn’t listen, I know have grabbed the chair in which has led to a meltdown and told her she either had the drink in this cup or not at all, and you guessed it, baby woke up. I told her she’s not getting the drink anymore cause she woke her sister up, but she’s full on crying now cause she didn’t get her way. I calmed her down and attended to my 7 month old.

No matter what I did, the 7 month old would not transfer again, I was in there for 30 minutes before I just left to see if she would self settle and went back to my toddler to put her to bed. I’m now doing the bedtime routine with my toddler and I can hear my 7 month old crying out. I quickly finish up the book and song before giving her a kiss goodnight. As I’m trying to leave the room, the questions start ‘but I don’t want to go to bed’ ’why do I have to sleep?’ ‘I want to sleep in your bed’ I tried repeatedly saying to her nicely that her sister is crying and mummy needs to go to her, but nope wasn’t good enough, if I walk away she calls out which keeps the baby awake. I ended up just completely overwhelmed and overstimulated and screamed ‘just go to bed, why am I arguing with a 3 year old’ and walked away.

I don’t know how to move forward and navigate these moments… Any advice?

P.s I feel really bad when these moments happen, after I settled the baby again, I went in and apologised to her and told her that mummy shouldn’t have yelled like that… this is the first time that I’ve screamed like that. Yes I’ll raise my voice slightly when I’m on the third statement or when I’m counting to 3 but never like this before.

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