Husband wants to go away daughter’s first weekend after starting primary school
Hi all,
Just looking for some advice / guidance. My husband has been invited to go away to Barcelona from Friday 4th September to Monday 7th September for one of his best mates 50th birthday. My daughter starts primary school on Thursday 3rd September and we have a 7 month old daughter as well. He told me this yesterday and it felt like he was just letting me know that he was going, however I have some reservations. I am conscious that this is a big transition for my daughter and she does struggle with transitions. It takes her quite a while to warm up to new people (but once she does, she loves them forever!). I am also conscious that if I’m on my own that weekend then I am not going to be able to give her as much attention as normal as I’ll be looking after her sister as well. He’s already celebrated this friend’s 50th in London a few weeks ago so this is an additional celebration and he’s been out a lot since our youngest was born. I’m not one to say no, but I’ve been having issues with him recently about it not feeling like he puts family first and this just feels like one thing he should say no to so that we can make sure our daughter feels safe and secure whilst she starts a new school with new kids, new teachers, new environment. Any thoughts very much welcome!
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Do you have any family members your daughter likes that might be able to come and help you that weekend?
It wouldn’t bother me him going away however I would expect him to ask. I’d also expect the same in return and as long as he can still afford to go away as a family later in the year. Will he be there for her first day to take her in?
Just for him to ask like Karen said x
How often has he been going out since your baby was born? I feel that if he's aware that your daughter struggles with transitions and this is a huge transition for her to go through that he needs to prioritise her over his friends birthday celebration. I would personally sit him down and express exactly what you have wrote here, i know you said you aren't one to say no but definitely communicate why you would actually prefer if he skipped it and stayed home to be supportive of you all and especially your eldest daughter. I'm sorry that you're feeling he isn't putting family first but don't bottle it up make him aware of how you are feeling x
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