phantom crying

i am constantly hearing phantom cries from my daughter. she's not actually crying, i just hear it and it's not there. i'll be sitting in a different room with the baby monitor while my daughter naps and i'll hear a phantom cry and immediately spring up and run in to find her just sleeping fine.

it happens in the shower, if im out and away from the baby, if im right next to her, in the next room through the baby monitor, in my sleep. i literally wake up thinking i'm hearing her cry and she's sound asleep when i look in her crib.

does anyone else just constantly hear phantom cries or is it just me?

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I actually get this. That's why I lie awake looking at the monitor or co-sleep (don't come at me, Momma needs rest)

Yes. I hear crying all the time as well. And am constantly checking on the baby

@rebecca my PPA now has something else to worry about 😭

i guarantee it's not post partum psychosis, my therapist also doesn't think so. just ppd and ppa

no i get it. i bedshared for about a month when my daughter was at her peak colic times. it's slowed down a bit now that she's 4 months, but it was hell. i needed sleep and so did dad so she slept next to me in bed for the time. sometimes i just stare at her like "are you gonna cry? are you gonna wake up?" bc she's also decided now that 20 minute naps are better and makes herself overtired

nope, just a lot of anxiety, it manifests physically for me. i've had anxiety since i was like 4 or 5 years old

I used to during the day think I was hearing it but I knew I wasn’t actually. It eventually stopped and went away.

Don’t worry it’s happened to most of us, i used to hear it a lot more now it just happens occasionally while i’m in the shower. it will go away soon

I hear it all the time. My baby is 4 months

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