When your partner doesn't work and wants to use your extra wages
So I'm a mum in full time work, working 3 jobs whilst my other half does nothing but invest all his money in stock markets..
I have been given the opportunity to finally do the job I've wanted to do for a while which means my wages have gone up. We need to move asap and OH says investing will help us by enabling us to buy a holiday home to move there.. he's desperate for Money so now he wants to invest all my extra wages after investing our rent money this month.. I now have extra bills to pay and double rent to pay in March.. how would you tell your partner that investing someone else's extra wages in this situation wouldn't be beneficial when the money that's already been invested has done nothing for us in the last 2 years?
He's so set in his ways that when I say no, he's going to blow up and have a full on tantrum, so I need to handle this delicately.
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It's difficult discussing money with a partner, but from the sounds of it your wages are going to already be spent on bills and rent so how will this be paid if it's invested.
I think you need to be blunt and say this is my money I don't want you investing it. It's not the 60's where Men were the main bread winners and did all the finances. You are independently earning and paying your way. You both need to have an adult conversation sit down and say this isn't an argument this is how it's going to work you direct the conversation and say it's not up for discussion. Unless your wages go into a joint account, he would only get your wages if you gave them to him to invest. Good luck x
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