Bum problem

Sorry if to much info
So I gave birth January 22nd 2022 to my second son. It was a water birth & when k was pushing it felt like he was coming, but it wasn’t I needed a number 2 🙈 natural right. He came after but I did push hard. After about 2 months after giving birth everytime I went to the toilet it would hurt so bad that I would cry. It was sting, burn, feel like glass, it was itchy too. I got so scared to go toilet I just cried. Iv been to doctors twice about it and they have checked me over inside & out and couldn’t see or feel anything. Prescribed me laxatives I took them but not daily, they did work they made my poo more easier to pass but because they was less firmer than normal and more like dirroreah form how it was passing coming out quickly it still stung and felt like a burning sensation so that didn’t help or work. I was told to eat more fibre, change my diet which I have. Was told to drink more which I have a little not much, maybe I do need to drink more but that won’t fix tbis problem. I’m back at the doctors on Monday & was wondering if anyone else has gone through this or something similar and what it was for you? Over a year now Iv had this problem and getting sick of it, just hurts so bad. Past 2 days it’s been so sore, struggling to sit & walk, do anything, it’s just stinging and feels like it’s burning & it’s itchy. Iv looked it up and says could be haemorrhoids.

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