So sad about not being pregnant anymore
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I get this 10000% I had it with my first child but in hindsight i was mourning the romance of birth that I missed out on (I had an emergency c section) and also mourning the person who was innocently none the wiser as to what was to come if that makes sense! Second baby (7 weeks old now) I’m missing pregnancy too but for a different reason as I really enjoyed being pregnant but couldn’t take it in whilst having a toddler and being so busy, and now she is here I miss it! Also I find it it really hard knowing she’s getting bigger. It’s all very bitter sweet x
My baby was very premature and spent 3 months on NICU. I really feel like I'm grieving the third trimester and all my expectations of what pregnancy/ birth / early days would be. I've found there's a lot of mental health support available so I'd encourage you to reach out to your health visitor or the NICU will have counsellors that you're still able to talk to for at least the first year after birth. I found it really helpful to talk to people that weren't friends and family.
I was the same I had my little girl 6 weeks Sunday and about a week ago I really missed being pregnant (hated my third trimester I had sciatica and was just super uncomfortable all the time!) and I had a traumatic birth to the point it’s all I could think about and one day I just woke up and not that I forgot it but I would look at her face and just know she was all worth it and although I’m not pregnant I now get to enjoy watching her grow and love her even more. Everyone’s emotions are different but I found talking about my birth to my partner and mum who were both there definitely helped and it just took time. Now I’m so excited and happy that she’s here that the pregnancy feels like so long ago! X
You summed up exactly how I felt in he first few weeks of my daughters life. The day we came home from the hospital I cried as I wasn’t pregnant anymore. I also didn’t have an easy pregnancy and wished it away and then felt sad I and guilty I hadn’t enjoyed it more. I think these are all normal feelings. Being pregnant is a privilege and incredible but it’s a huge strain on our bodies. I think it’s normal to look back with almost rose tinted glasses and think we should have enjoyed it more but it’s to feel how we felt. X
I’ve also had these exact feelings, but found it hard to put in to words. It was a combination of not being pregnant anymore, worrying the bond wouldn’t be the same, and having to share her with other people? Then I felt guilty for not wanting to share her. It does feel overwhelming like grief, and comes in waves. Be kind to yourself x
I think its a fairly normal emotion. I miss it too but I know I'm definitely done after 3 babies. I also never got the birth I dreamed of. I have to remind myself that I'm just so grateful they are all here and safe. Definitely miss the bump and feeling his kicks and having that little 'us' bond. Now I have to share him with everyone. I also spent the last few weeks eager for him to come out because I was so uncomfortable and he was measuring big so I spent a lot of time worrying about him having trouble getting out when I should have been resting and enjoying the last few weeks of kicks and hiccups. If my previous pregnancies are anything to go by it gets better with time. Enjoy your snuggles, they grow so fast. And be kind to you 🥰
Literally explained it the same as me! I didn’t enjoy pregnancy in general as I was constantly worried due to previous losses but I deffo now feel like I’m mourning it and miss my pregnant body so much! Xx
After delivery I was so busy with my baby I couldn’t miss my pregnancy at all 😂 may be spend some more time with baby so you don’t miss your old days.