Inconsolable by father

Is this a new thing or has she always been like this?

Because my guy started doing this about a month ago. Turned out he had an ear infection which we didn’t realise because he wasn’t really tugging his ears or showing any symptoms. Think we had a about 2 weeks after the antiobiotics were done of him still only wanting me and refusing to sleep in his cot or only sleeping short bursts. now he’s better and let’s my partner console him at night. To survive we would cosleep though which I know not everyone wants to do.

It is new. She was a bit sick a week ago and that’s when it started

It might be that! I mean it was for us, as horrible and exhausting it was, it did get better after about 3 weeks.

When we coslept at night he slept through and even wanted to sleep next to my partner and not me. Very strange but it kept us sane. We just lost our evenings together as there was always one of us trying to calm him down and back in his cot. Usually I would have to save my partner.

Eventually he just started sleeping longer stretches in his cot and let’s my partner rock him back to sleep and put him back in.

Sorry I know that’s not helpful! Just know you aren’t alone, it was a hard few weeks for both of us. I didn’t get to speak to him more than 30 minutes after he came home from work because there was always one of us trying to get my guy back in his cot. One of us eventually gave up and went to bed with him so the other could relax a bit.

The hourly wakes are a new thing or just the refusal of Dad?

hourly wakes as of a week or two

Hmm very likely a progression in that case unfortunately but what does your daytime sleep look like and how long are you wake windows before bed?