Daddy wants to bath with baby?
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He wants to get in the bath with the baby? Is that something you do? Would you feel differently if it was a baby boy? Just questions you may want to look deeper into as you process this.
If your gut doesnt trust him to do that with her, listen to it
I don’t think it’s fair to not let him do it. It’s her Dad and she’s just a baby. Why is it okay for you to do it and not him, because you share the same genitals? Fair enough if she was older at which point I’d think it weird if the mother was still having baths with them 😂 Give him his place it’s his baby too.
I think it’s lovely, I see it as a bonding experience. I’d be happy he wants to be involved in things like bath time 😊
Yes my hubby has been having a bath with our 12 week old. The nurse suggested it and told me to put my feet up while they bath although that but hasn’t happened yet! I think it’s a nice way for them to bond?
Yes you’re overthinking and I would question your hesitation when it comes to your husband and father of your child bathing with his own baby. Why did you need to? Because you have a vagina?
My partner bathed with his girls as babies. I'm pregnant now with my 1st with him. We're having a boy. I wouldn't see it being a problem. He has a right to bond with the baby in that way as well. Surely it's only the same as you bathing her. Your both her parents
@Peanut If it was a boy I would feel different I guess I am thinking too much into this I almost responded with asking him to wear boxers if he wants to but I kind of just smiled when he said it
He is her dad…I feel sad for him that it was a consideration of you saying no and considering asking him to put boxers on 😕
Tbh i wear a bathing suit bottom when I bath with my son.. i don’t know why.. might be trauma related for me.. id challenge you to dig deeper into your concern and where it’s stemming from
Oh wow I feel really bad now for even thinking he shouldn't. Thanks for your responses, I've never told him no or he can't do anything else and as many of you said yes it's his child too so i have no right and wouldn't want to anyway, I havnt told him no to this was just wondering what others thought.
For me personally as a Mother of a little dude, I used to bathe with my son until he started ‘staring’ 🤣 or ‘noticing’ my bits were slightly different to his! I’d be the same with my partner if we had a little girl, I think as soon as she starts to stare or you can see the cogs turning I wouldn’t feel comfortable anymore! But it’s personal preference! And it’s not at all worrying they might do something untoward! It’s just whatever you’re comfortable with ☺️
Why is it okay for you and not him? If he is her dad then wrong of you to say he can’t very strange my babies dad gives him shower with him every time or we give him a bath i have probably had him in shower with me once and when our baby girl comes I wouldn’t have an issue.
@Kayleigh I never asked him to was just in my head, you don't need to feel sad for him he has a great life with his family I've never stopped him from doing anything in life or with our daughter and he isn't even aware of my concern. This was a post asking others opinions not for you to push your feelings onto me and make me bad for asking.
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I would definitely think twice when she’s older but right now of course he should be able to bath his child. Is it the getting in with her part that bothers you? If you had a boy how would you feel if he was uncomfortable with you being in the bath with him. I personally think while they are so young and not going to remember both of you should enjoy the bonding with baby.
It's absolutely no different from you bathing with the baby.
@Laurie can I ask why you think it’s different for a mother or father to bath their child?
My husband took baths with our baby girl it was a good bonding experience for them it's definitely not weird unless you think something weird will happen.....would you think this way if you had a boy? Also if you feel more comfortable have him wear a bathing suit
I think you’re way overthinking it, it’s a bonding experience for dad and baby, I don’t see why you wouldn’t want them to tbh, my sons dad always bathed with him and still does to this day…
We don’t do baths bc I hate our tub, but when we do baby “bath” time my husband holds her in the shower while I wash her, or we all three shower together. It’s nice ♥️
I don't think that's appropriate or necessary. You may have to if your home with baby and you both need a bath, but why would he even want to do that?
I think it’s important for dads to get as involved as they can and I would hate it if when I have my little boy my partner told me I couldn’t bath with him
You’re overthinking and being unfair. If you’re worried about body parts just have him wear swim trunks. Just bc he’s on the outside of the bath you two take doesn’t make him as included in the experience
@Krystal it's not that I think something weird would happen I just don't like the thought of her potentially touching something.. I guess from all these post I'm just being very silly.
Would you say the same thing for moms like me who take baths with their sons? It’s not weird at all. My dude is 16 months old and without someone in there with him he’s a Tasmanian devil and often hurts himself. My husband takes showers with our baby boy all the time and will take showers with our daughter when she’s born. He loves it, my son loves it. It’s super cute and one less thing I have to do! I did it with my dad until about 3-4.
Ah sorry no judgement OP-my answer may not be coming across the way I intended via text🙂 so sorry! I work in protecting children and I know that men are often questioned even implicitly on appropriateness with children. Don’t want you feeling bad at all-it is just men get this alot. Again-sorry if my comment came across a judgemental.
I used to get in the bath with my dad! But that was over 35 years ago I guess.
It’s sad that people in this world are labelling parents bathing with their babies as ‘inappropriate’. FFS.
Yeah I’d say ur overthinking it. He’s her dad so has as much right as u do 😊
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@Sam I wouldn't even question the shower because she would be high up on his chest.. I think if I had a son and had baths, I'd wear something on my bottom half if I was bathing with him.
@L 💜 she said it’s NO different.
Do you have complete transparency are you able to look at his phone any time? What is his reason for wanting to? What are his porn habits? I want to challenge everyone here saying not a big deal to go to instagram find a parent run child's instagram page and go to the comments section and the followers. See who is liking and commenting on a child videos and pictures... grown men, men with children, grandfathers, they all look so unassuming and tou would never be able to tell. Their are men who have alterior motives. 1 in 3 or 4 women now have been SA many by their OWN FATHERS. Dont be soo naive to believe it couldn't happen to you, because it absolutely could. It is important to set clear boundaries with our kids. They are people they are autonomous. Knowing what goes in on this world we should want to set clear physical boundaries in our families.
We dont have a bath in our house sadly and i actually do feel both of us are missing out in this bonding experience with our now 15 month old Daughter. But no i would not have an issue with them taking a bath together...🤷🏼♀️ I mean would the same rule apply to you if you guys had a son instead?! I doubt it
I feel like if Dad is offering to give baby a bath that means break time for Mom! Bonding time for Dad and baby and break time for Mom, all I see is a win win situation.
@Peanut read that too quick 🙄
@Zara sorry this affected you, I was just asking. 🤷🏼♀️
I don’t see anything wrong with that…. My husband takes baths with my son all the time. It’s an amazing bonding experience for baby and dad. Should be no different then you bathing with your baby. It’s only weird if you are making it weird tbh
It’s not even your post. It’s everyone else on here that’s commenting and saying ‘no’ or ‘trust your gut’ or just implying that we’ve all married and had children with paedophiles. WTF?
@Cymmone and you can replace everything you’re saying about men with women. Don’t be so naive to believe that all women are safe. They aren’t. Just like all men aren’t trash. Teach safe behavior and boundaries for your babies no matter the gender.
@Cymmone I think everyone here would challenge you calling their husbands and partners paedophiles… 🤔 Why would I go and look at a child’s Instagram account? I have my own child who I’m focusing on. Maybe you should challenge them for sharing their child’s image publicly in the first place, not women who want their children to bond with their fathers?
Maybe it's because I grew up in a house where body parts weren't shamed or hidden but I see no problem with this. In fact not hiding certain body parts will help later when talking about what is and isn't appropriate. Its a very American thing to hide away our bodies especially at home 🤷
Can I just make somthing clear i don't think for one second my partner is a peadophile or don't trust him at all woth our baby girl.. its just incase she touches something BY ACCIDENT she shouldn't.
I’m sorry but nah.
Allow it he is the dad and has every right the same as you for bonding and skin to skin with the baby ! what’s to say you can’t do what he does and sit in the bathroom with them with a cuppa and watch their bonding experience the same as he is currently doing with you 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
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your overthinking , it’s completely normal. males should be able to bathe their babies just as a female does.
Why should you be able to bath with baby but daddy can’t ? Seems strange to me
At the baby stage it didn’t matter to me if it’s mummy or daddy in the bath. I guess we will stop getting in the bath together at the same time for both of us (our boy is 2 and we still do it because he has no understanding of gender or genitals yet)
And what if she accidentally touches ur private area?
By accident? I dont OP only you know your husband. You know what you know of his past behaviour. Knowing his past behaviour as a person, do you trust him? Is he safe? Did he bathe with his dad and mom? Where is this urge to bathe with her coming from?
My daughter and my husband still have baths together, she’s 3 and a half now and she loves it! I think you are overthinking it, if it’s okay for you to do then it’s okay for him to do, you’re both parents the same.