Miscarriage

Hey ladies,

This question is a bit sensitive, but I've been having anxiety over what birth pain feels like. I had a miscarriage before my rainbow baby, and I had to do a surgical procedure to remove the baby. It was so painful. I felt like I was on my death bed. If anyone has had the surgical procedure, is pain the same as giving birth pain? Or is it worse?

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I think it depends on how far along were you when you had the procedure. Was it a D&C, D&E, or stillbirth?

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I was put to sleep so I wouldn’t know x sorry x

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I had a miscarriage where I had to put the pills in. The physical pain of miscarrying was worse then giving birth to my two kids, but also faster. I was 10 weeks along with that pregnancy.

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It feels different for everyone. It depends son where the baby is in conjunction to your boys, if your body is ready, how big the baby is, what your level of perceived pain is. If you stay anxious and tense it is worse. Just relax about it bc whatever it is, you can get through it. We're made to! You got this.

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I was 7 weeks pregnant, and the pills they gave me to take as medicine didn't work. I was in pain and bleeding, but the baby won't leave. After a few days, I had the surgical procedure which is called surgical management.

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@Lorreen what's the definition of D&C and D&E

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I think we had the same thing because after the procedure, they put pills in

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Miscarriage was worse for me.
Miscarriage pain is something awful happening to you, and you just have to get through it. Birth builds slowly and purposefully, and you know that every contraction brings you one step closer towards meeting your baby. I did hypnobirthing and it really helps reframe everything. Honestly birth wasn't what I'd describe as "pain" but more like the most intense workout, and your body being stronger than you ever thought it could be. Definitely recommend hypnobirthing if you can do a course. I did The Positive Birth Company one

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A D&C is dilation and curettage and D&E is basically the same but with suction Dilation and Evacuation. I’m assuming you had one of those at 7 weeks.
For me, I was put to sleep and had cramping and pain afterwards. I’m sorry yours was so painful.
I think the mental load makes it more difficult. ✨🤍✨

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Labour was absolutely worse. But there is big difference in mentality which makes it bearable. I have had multiple miscarriages with different management labour pain tops it all.

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I had a medical managed 20 wk miscarriage and the pain felt the same as induction pain

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My mom had traumatic births so I grew up fearing childbirth. I was so scared of the pain that I wanted to just have an elective c-section. However, I took birthing classes that educated me so much on the process of childbirth and how everything works. The knowledge unexpectedly boosted my confidence in myself so much that I went on to have an unmedicated water birth instead.

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