Leaving baby with in-laws after mat leave

I’m even considering not going back to work at all just so I don’t have to leave baby with them!!

You have to do what you feel is right for you.
Your husband may want to leave the baby with them and that’s fine, but at the end of the day you both have to agree on the childcare if you’re returning to work.
It’s not fair for you to be worried about your baby when you go to work as that won’t help you at all.
This is your baby, not theirs x

My MIL is like this. She’s crazy and I hate her. I basically only let her watch my son if there is something that I need to get done and my moms not available. If you don’t want her to watch your baby then I suggest not going back to work only if you can afford it, work from home or find a daycare. Once I left him overnight when he was 10 months and she took a shower with him🤮 I was horrified. Seriously if you can’t trust them with baby there are alternatives. Maybe pay a friend to babysit.

Omg I am soo sorry that’s disgusting and traumatic. This is the thing they literally sit at home all day and do nothing so they are free to baby sit. If I choose for my baby to be taken care of elsewhere they’ll get all upset and offended 🙄

When they see me or hear that I’m going out they ask if I’m taking baby too. Well ofc I am so stupid (trying hard not to swear) I will never leave the house with them he’s only 3 months

I’m sorry but who cares if she’s offended? She needs to handle her feelings better.
You need to have a serious talk with your partner and tell him your concerns.
She then needs to be told she needs to follow your boundaries or she will not be looking after them.

I know, so gross. Ugh that’s hard. It sucks to hurt peoples feelings but if you don’t feel comfortable with it then they are going to have to deal with it 🤷‍♀️ it’s a lot harder than it sounds though I know. If you do have a friend that’s willing to watch him I would just use the excuse that you wanna help your friend make some extra cash in their “hard time” lol

thank you you guys have got me all pumped to tell my husband how I feel

Don’t you just hate having to bottle things to keep others happy. I feel like I’m negative all the time and complain a lot but I have to live with these people 😭

I wish I had a friend that could do this. My family aren’t available as they’re working. If only my in-laws worked but they are so lazy ffs

Sometimes I wish I didn’t marry into this family

Sorry for the rant guys

It’s so hard to stay positive and I’m feeling anxious about it all when I don’t go back until feb!!

I’m so sorry your going through this hun but defo tell your husband yours feelings. The last thing you want is ti leave your child in a place you don’t feel safe in

Don’t worry I’ve bottled up all my feelings too and have very strong ones against my MiL and I don’t know how to bring it up either. Because obviously most men think their mothers can do no wrong 😑

Daycare or stay at home if you can. Use the “want my child to have social interactions with kids her age excuse” if you do daycare.