Letting off some steam

I am so burnt out in my marriage it’s becoming hard to find reasons to stay. I’ve been with my husband since I was 15 and him 18 and we’ve been married for 2 years with a 6 year old. I’ve these 10 years he has cheated on and off, none in the last 4/5 years that’s I’ve caught and I always catch him. Well he has always been the type to not meet the standards for most men (pay bills gifts for holidays anniversary dates prioritize anything household wise) and I’ve never complained or spoke down to him, let me let the house go because I’ve had a hard time mentally and or go out of work because COVID hits and my daughters daycare kept closing and financially was just the way it had to go and I’m a lazy sorry excuse for a wife and mother. Well he’s been out of work since end of December because he got into a car accident at work and he smokes and wouldn’t pass a drug test and had refused to get a job until just recently because I’ve only just now been getting on him about getting a job because he’s been “trying” to start his own business (because he doesn’t want to stop smoking and maintain a legit job) and I was being the supportive spouse but now schools over and I couldn’t afford childcare on top of the bills and he didn’t want to be stuck at home dad (he’s not allowed to smoke around our kid or in my house mind you) well today he’s gotten paid by his under the table piss poor job and is complaining that the 1 out of 5 bills I’ve given him to pay will leave him with not money for smoke 💨 or any kind. His daughter needs new shoes and clothes for the summer and he’s worried about smoking. He can’t even bother to fix my car that I use to drive our daughter to school and myself to work everyday and I’m the one paying the bills. He borrowed 4,000$ from his grandparents to get himself a new/used truck because his was falling apart. I drive a 400$ Toyota 2007 and he’s driving a basically brand new vehicle. I’m just so tired and wonder where I went wrong in life to be dealing with this.

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Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

If you DO NOT buy things second hand, it is mainly because:

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Going back to work!

Already thinking about this! Told my boss I was pregnant this week at 10 weeks, he was so happy for me. He’s recently became a first time Dad and was showing me pictures of his baby. I told him my plans about going back after 6 months and he looked at me like I was mad, am I!? I absolutely love my job and cannot imagine giving it up, I manage a team and am petrified my position won’t be there if I had a year off. My husband gets 6 months full pay so the plan would be for him to have the last 6 months off and I also made it clear to my boss that I would like to go part time. That way we can hopefully parent together 4/7 days rather than just the weekend! I am such an overthinking! 🤣 but this is what I’m struggling with the most, I’ve worked full time since I was 17 (12 years ago) and the max time I’ve had off in one go is 2 weeks when I got married. I’m sooo excited to be a Mum and we decided now was the right time, which it 100% is! But I feel so on edge about not working! I’m sure once I’m on maternity leave I won’t even think about work! Has anyone else felt the same?

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️