Partner is having a day out with his manipulative sister

So me and sil don't get on because she basically turned into some nasty controlling bitch when I have birth. She wanted to see baby but without me there, I soon got onto this, feeling unwanted in my own home and she started getting in my partners head saying it wasn't normal that I was always with my baby!!! Me and my partner almost broke up, but things settled down. My partner and sil have never been close in the 5 years we have been together, but she has invited him out on a day out just the 2 of them (to something she new I 100% wouldn't be up for) Anyway I'm now starting to get anxious that she's going to try get in his head again and be asking for him to take our baby to her without me (in a normal family set up this would be fine but because she has treated me like dirt since giving birth I'm not comfortable with her being around my baby unless I'm there) I don't want to bring this up with my partner and him think I'm starting drama because that's exactly what I don't want! I was thinking of saying to him something like, "Hey, why don't you ask your sister if we could arrange a day, out all of us" (the day he's with her, I'm not trying to stop them having time together) just thinking if I get that in before she starts saying anything it would work better for me? I'm so stressed I even have to worry about this 😔 Please give me advice if you have any...

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Honestly, I have a similar situation with my sil and I’m being honest with my partner. I told him that I might be overreacting or imagining things maybe I’m misinterpreting things and I don’t wanna start drama but this is how I feel and it’s making me very anxious and I just wanna be sure that we’re on the same page and that he supports me. You will feel much better being honest with your partner about how you feel. It’s all about how you deliver the message.

I would just let them have their days out and if baby gets braught straight up say NO tell you partner she is welcome to see baby at you’re home anytime but you aren’t taking him out that’s what I would say anyway my boyfriends family are like this and I tell him nooope 🤣 do you want the baby growing up thinking you’re not a part of his family his dads side or all separate

Tell her to fuck off and grow the hell up. It's your child not hers. She has no right nor say.

I don’t see why it’s not normal that you’re always with your baby. I swear people forget that they spent 9 months in your womb and outside the womb they need you just as much as you need them. I go pretty much everywhere with my baby and if my partner wants to take her anyway he’ll be more like “I’m going out do you want me to take her with me?” If she wants to see the baby then it should be on your terms because it’s your baby not hers and if she doesn’t like that then that’s her problem.

I don’t get along with my SIL but I would let them have a day out together, they’re siblings end of the day🤷🏾

@Brina I think you have missread the post!

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