IVF or Adoption...

I dont want to be pregnant again as terrible as that sounds there are some personal reasons and some possible medical reasons that can’t be confirmed unless I get pregnant again. But I want a girl. I have a son and i love him but I want one more and I want a girl. with IVF I have the option to increase the odds of having a girl by requesting what reads to be female. Or I can adopt a beautiful little girl that needs a home. But my husband also sees it as cost... IVF is cheaper but i don’t want to be pregnant. Adoption is $20000 more expensive but I dont have to be pregnant... my husband also wants to wait four more years and I dont know if I’m okay with that either (I promise we have a good marriage)..... I’m tied

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i’d say adoption. do you have a really supportive family that could help a little? what about hosting fundraisers for the adoption and making local events for your communities?

I’d say adoption as well. I can totally get you not wanting to be pregnant again. Pregnancy is miserable. Adoption would be the best choice, imo, because not only do you not have to be pregnant again, you get to give a baby the love they should’ve gotten and a good life 😊

The real question is how to convince my husband I dont want to wait four year if I’m adopting a baby baby. Maybe two not four I’ll wait four if I’m adopting 2-4 years old

Adoption is so lovely as you get to give another child a home and a family. I’d love to adopt if I had the money

Being pregnant blows and if you can give a little girl a better life I say honestly it’s a win win. Plus there are tonnnnns of ways to get adoption assistance

you could always do surrogate. That way no pregnancy but baby has your traits. There are plenty of surrogate services out there.

You could get a surrogate. It's gonna cost no matter what route you take.

I personally feel like adopting a child is one of if not the greatest thing you can do to make a difference in the world and it makes a world of difference for the child.I so look forward to adopting one day once we have the financial means.Its the saddest thing when children grow up in dysfunction and an unstable home.

Make a PROS & CONS list for both options with your whole family’s well being and financial future in mind. Also maybe try to change your perspective. LOTS of people WANT this or That. But god laughs at us when we make plans. Things don’t always go the way we want. I hope you find Clarity and your family has a long happy life

I really think that God smiles with pride when a good family adopts a child and laughs with joy......

I’d just adopt

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