Anxiety when other people hold and touch baby

How does everyone deal with the anxiety and stress you feel when certain people touch or hold your baby🥲

Like of course I don't mind my partner holding her, my granny or a couple of my select friends but when my partners family or some of my family and friends hold or touch her I get extremely anxious and I just want her back in my arms right away. I know none of them are going to hurt her or anything it's just my stress goes to a peak point to the extent it actually makes me feel physically sick.

Does anyone else feel this way or am I just a stress head 😅?
Any tips on helping relieve this feeling?

My little one is just past 11 weeks and I've felt this way since she was born, even feeling anxious about my partner holding her in the beginning but thankfully that has went away now. I suffered with anxiety and depression before pregnancy but my anxiety seems to be getting a lot worse and I'm absolutely dreading the point where I actually need to leave her with someone other than my partner.

Any advice is appreciated 🥰

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I have this anxiety now and she’s not even due yet 😂

Don’t really have advice other than the fact I know the feeling will pass in due time. But defo interested in what people have to say x

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My son is 6 months old and I still hate when certain people hold him, particularly my partners family. There is a real pull inside me to get him back from them even though I know they aren’t going to hurt him or anything. It has eased slightly as he has gotten older but I’m still not how I feel when my family hold him xxx

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Yes I still feel this constantly. I am only relaxed if she’s held by my husband, I, or my parents. I feel seriously ill when anyone else holds her especially my hubs side. I am very protective of her and I will not let anyone babysit her. She is 4 months. I don’t have advice because I am still struggling with this. Something I do tell myself is that I carried her for 9 months and I am her mama so if I don’t want other people holding her, I won’t give her to anyone. No one can tell a mama she is in the wrong and if they do, then there is something wrong with them. I’m gonna enjoy every second I can with my baby while she’s still little. 💖 No one other than you or your husband is entitled to your baby just remember that.

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I feel the same! Some people I’m fine with, but such as my husbands 2 other children, I can’t stand it-I know they don’t wash their hands & they’re a bit scruffy 🥴 I hate it when they touch him! Literally find any reason I can to get him back 😆 Hoping it gets better x

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It’s a very natural feeling and you’re not obliged to fight it. You could just give it time and see if it eases off ❤️ There’s no rush. If you genuinely want these other people to hold your baby, and you want to feel OK with it, then of course therapy/CBT might help. But I’m not sure if a therapist worth their salt would try and help you with what are very instinctive and normal feelings. I just say so if I don’t want someone to hold my baby - I don’t care about their hurt feelings 🤷🏻‍♀️ I would give it time and don’t pressure yourself xx

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My first born is 5 months and I’m still struggling with this myself. Ahh it’s so hard. As she’s getting older it’s gotten a lot better but I think is pointed out to me who I do trust and just generally like as humans and who I do not.

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My little boy is 6 months old and I still feel exactly the same. Honestly the fact that I'm breastfeeding gives me an excuse to ask for him back no questions asked. Or luckily at this point he's having a bit of separation anxiety so he actually demands to come back to me or my boyfriend.

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It gets easier. I used to hate people holding her. Certain people more than others. P But I still feel weird about some people holding her... As does she!

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I feel the same. And I really struggle to “give her away” when people ask to hold her. I also feel like that with “specific” people: if it’s someone I know has had a baby recently or is used to babies, I feel a bit more at ease than others.

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I have this and I'm careful to label these things as anxiety and depression.. It's actually very natural instincts.. Even if your friends pass their babies around like a football don't feel pressured. I didn't allow others to holjd until 3 months and still now I don't really encourage it

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Thank you everyone, your comments are really reassuring and have made me feel so much better! I'm glad to know it's not just me that feels like this and that it's a natural response 🥰

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