13 month old

I may be going crazy but I swear my daughter is a whole new baby. The first year was amazing, slept the entire night since 2 weeks old, ate great, got along with everyone, liked her daycare teachers more than me…

But now 😳

She Doesn’t sleep
Gets up multiple times throughout
I can barely eat or use the bathroom because the separation anxiety is outta this world
Screams her head off at daycare
She cries more than she is happy

What is going on?!?

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I know the changes can be tough, and even daunting. I can definitely sympathize with your struggles at this age! I can’t really say what may be going on but the BabyCenter app really helps me when it comes to dissecting the whys and hows and everything in between when it comes to developmental stages in my son. They have weekly articles they send for the average child of that certain age. Right now I’m on week 1 of 18 months since my son just turned 18 months today. There’s also little blurbs of advice.

I’ve found that reading those articles really helps me understand more of what’s going on from his level and helps me be much more patient and understanding and able to be there for him.

Don’t worry, you’ve got this, mama! Sending light and strength to you and your daughter! ❤️

My son had a pretty big sleep regression around 1 year. Another around 2. Now he’s almost three and we’re going through another one. There are also period where kids have more anxiety and understand more about the world around them. That could be one of the things going on as well.

Mine too I think this is around the time they start to notice and recognize their parents

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