Childcare for toddler during labour

For those of you who don't have any family or friends nearby enough to jump in to look after your older child, how did you manage labour and going to hospital to give birth? I'm only 5 weeks pregnant but already stressing about it!

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I got a neighbour to come until the family could arrive a few hours later x

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Having a homebirth to avoid having to leave him anywhere x

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Ask a nursery staff member to come and take care of them while you are in hospital? Or do you have any friends that could help?

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My mum was living 1.5 hours away at the time and she only just made it šŸ˜…

I arrived at the hospital fully dilated and ready to push. We had a neighbour ready as backup to take our eldest if needed until someone could arrive to take him back home.

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Could you get a menagerie of baby sitters and say you will call on them at some point until a friend can arrive?

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