When did your child start feeding themselves?

My daughter did it almost from the beginning. She would rip the spoon out of my hand, sending the food in all directions and try to feed herself. Then get mad when the spoon was empty.

My son on the other hand will be 4 in a few weeks and still has meals where he refuses to eat himself.

Not till 10-12m with both my boys

With finger foods my little one started around 9-10 months. Now we’re at 16 months and he’s starting with a spoon but still working on getting down without dropping food.

My son did from the start and let him feed himself.

Try feed them first so their not "starving" then give them the spoon or finger food halfway through fir them to try themselves, also give them spoons of their own while you feed them with a spoon...

It does make a mess my 2 year old still makes a mess sometimes but its just the learning process xx

We did baby led weaning, so she fed herself from day one (6 months and a few days)

I think you just need to let them do it. Stop feeding them and they’ll start to do it. If they are hungry and want food then they’ll do it themselves lol. Or you just let them sit for 30 min if they don’t touch it or throw it then get them down. They’ll only learn to start doing it themselves when that is the only option.

My daughter also wanted to eat on her own pretty much from the start at 6 months. She has been independent with everything though, now at 17 months shes starting to use a spoon and fork but still prefers to use her hands. I think its a personality thing rather than a milestone. Your kids might want you to feed them because they see it as bonding. Out of curiosity are they breastfed or formula? My daughter is breastfed and I feel like because of that she likes the independence of eating by herself. I could be wrong but that could be a theory. 🤷‍♀️

Regardless if you want them to eat independently, I think have them eat when youre eating and show by example of how you eat your food and they should try to copy. Our daughter always eats alongside of us, she has her own plate and we dont really interrupt her we just all focus on our own plates, we will talk to each other and her but I dont really touch her food unless im giving her more of something.