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My boyfriend told me tonight that he thinks his life has gone down hill since 25. He’s 29 currently, we’ve known each other for 11 years but only got together 3 years ago when he was 26, our daughter was born in December when he was 28.

Today was my 25th birthday, long story short it was an awful day. Only my mom and my sister acknowledged it was my birthday, I couldn't leave the house because my car is currently broken and my boyfriend is prepping for harvest so he wasn't home until really late.

He asked me how it felt to be 25 and I said it was okay, he said “good, because it only goes downhill from here” so I said “do you really think your life has gone down hill since you were 25” because I thought it must have been a joke.

But no he was dead serious, he then explained to me that not just 25 he thinks his life has gotten worse since he was 23. Which honestly hurt because we got together and our amazing daughter being born has happened since his life ‘got worse’.

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Not off the bat, Id definitely ask more questions to see what parts of his life hes referring too specifically x

Does he mean travelling? Or the feeling of dating/butterflies, being Desired? Or does he mean friends? Hobbies? As parents if we want all that we have to purposely dedicate time out for that. My hubby still sees friends, he goes bowling every Wednesday on the league, (his team won 1st last season) sometimes poker/fishing/golf depending on season. I still have my hobbies I still see friends every couple weeks, girls nights. He will feel this way if he felt like he had to put his life on hold to become a Dad, but there’s nothing to say we still can’t have fun, can’t see friends can’t have hobbies can’t travel can’t go gym, even bars/clubs w friends etc. we can (and I do) still do all that. Monthly date nights too. He has a boys night coming this Friday. I’m going out the Sat night. Ask him what does he wanna do to make his life better, more fun. Is there a sports/hobby he wants to do?

Yeah the joke alone “it all goes downhill from 25” wouldn’t bother me but it is weird for him to double down and genuinely mean he thinks his life has got worse. Maybe he just means he’s less carefree now, there’s more responsibilities and worries.

Bring it up again and ask what he meant. Xx

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