Owlet monitor fucking terrible.

I’m literally trying not to cry right now. We have the owlet video monitor and are working on getting our son used to sleeping in his crib in his own room. We cannot hear him from where our bedroom is but our roommate can but that’s fine because we use our baby monitor and our roommate is a night owl so he’s not bothered by the baby crying. I do not believe in crying it out. I have a degree in psychology and based off what I learned studying child development I’m not cool with it, not against those who are but it’s not how I want to raise my son. Lately our son has been sleeping longer and longer stretches at night (by that I mean he went from 15 minutes to about an hour or two, it’s been slow work transitioning him). We use the monitor with the background noise feature on my phone turned all the way up with my phone locked at night. Up until yesterday we had no issue. We can hear his sound machine through it and it actually is helpful for me to fall asleep myself. Well last night it turned off some time after 2:30 and we noticed it at about 7 when we woke up. My husband swears he checked it when he got up to go to the bathroom at 6 but we just found out from our roommate that the baby was definitely crying around that time and we were not aware. I was upset yesterday but tonight I’m livid. I put him down last at midnight, he had a stomach ache and was hysterical when I had gone in there at that time and it took me an hour to get him comfortable and to calm down. So likes it’s not even like it’s a good night to begin with. My husband just woke me up at 5:30 saying the monitor isn’t on again. I checked it and he’s asleep but I texted my roommate to be sure and sure enough my son has woken up twice and cried himself to sleep both times since I last put him down. Roommate had assumed we were in his room and my son just wasn’t settling down tonight. Apparently there’s a problem with the background setting on the app and the audio will just cut out randomly. It’s never done this during nap time during the day but that’s now two nights in a row. I can’t trust this thing and am tempted to just put a bed in my sons room so I can hear him at night. I’m so upset. I can’t even imagine how upset and scared he was when we didn’t come.

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Mine plays on background for like 2 hours then randomly shuts off so I don’t trust my owlet one bit!

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Oh I am so so sorry to hear this has happened! It must have been awful for you but you are not a bad person especially if you didn’t know ! I understand you’ve studied and know the disadvantages of the sleep training stuff, but you physically couldn’t of helped it happening, have you thought of a diff camera ? One that isn’t connected to your phone ? But has the camera and monitor you can put on the bedside ? I have one that’s just a cheap bog standard one but it’s been amazing! I can send the link over ? No internet required and it’s pretty loud ! Xx

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This was happening to me and I just uninstalled and reinstalled the app, hasn't happened since. Maybe instead of a bed in there, you can try the old fashion baby monitors that just do sound.

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We have a cheap hello baby monitor from Amazon. Might be worth trying as it's not wifi connected?

But also I don't do CIO but I know there's been times I've been so tired that I definitely slept through some crying at night. It's human and you're not a bad mom for having tech fail. Maybe your roommate can text you if he hears the baby crying as a second way to wake up?

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Our Nanit has been doing something similar. It’s so frustrating!!!

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yes please send me that link. 100% getting a new monitor today

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YOTON Baby Monitor, Monitor with Infrared Night Vision,2.4-inch Screen,Digital Surveillance Camera and Audio,VOX Mode,Temperature Sensor,8 Lullabies,Alarm Function,Indoor,480P https://amzn.eu/d/cj0Qnrm

This is it but I’ve just realised I’m in the UK so it’s different!

If anything I’ve looked at these and they are a decent price and similar:

Babystar Baby Monitor, 2.4" Video Baby Monitor with Camera and Audio, Baby Nursery Camera, Two Way Talk,7 Lullabies, 960ft Range and Keep Eyes on Babies with Night Vision https://a.co/d/gOCCYhz

Firskids Baby Monitor with Camera and Audio,No WiFi Required,3.2" Baby Video Monitor, Long Range, Easy to Use, 2-Way Talk, VOX, Night Vision, Suitable for Baby Monitoring and Elderly Care https://a.co/d/1qSfouC

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You're definitely not a bad mom! Honestly I didn't want a wifi camera for that exact reason. I swear by the kidsneed monitor. It's cheap and effective.

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I’m guessing it uses wifi since you said your use your phone? Maybe your wifi hasn’t been great at night and that’s why it’s being weird. And maybe a setting was accidentally put on to make it turn off after a while. Our monitor did that our son was playing with it and turned the screen timer on where it would turn off after 15 min

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And definitely not a bad mom. Yo u can only do so much. And if you had no idea that it was happening then there’s nothing you could have done. All you can do is just move forward. Hopefully a new monitor will help. And in the future you might need to do other things to help baby sleep as well. CIO definitely isn’t fun. But sometimes parents have to do it and you arent bad or good for doing it

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thank you

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Hey I have the Owlet too. I get how you feel because I was extremely frustrated about this about a month ago. The same thing that happened to you happened to me but luckily I randomly woke up 10 minutes into baby girl crying. They problem is something you can’t even fix. It’s a wifi “issue”. If your wifi for whatever reason has a little hiccup, you have to reopen the app to get it synched with your phone again. We learned that was very unreliable. So now we use the owlet for the monitoring, keep the camera on just to be able to view on phone but not depend on it, and bought another baby monitor with the physical display that we keep on at night.

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That sounds so frustrating and scary.
I found that a cheap monitor that doesn’t run off of WiFi are the most reliable. This is the one we are using, if the camera gets unplugged the remote will start beeping.

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The kidsneed baby monitor from Amazon is also affordable and really great with night vision and other great features. We love it. And you can buy extra cameras to link to it

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I've never gotten background to work. I leave the video on and leave it plugged in at night. I've never had an issue that way. I like to just look over at the camera without unlocking my phone.

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I’ve only had issues with the monitor when the WiFi in the house is bad. I’d recommend getting a new monitor entirely so you have one and then reaching out to customer service regarding it

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Mine does this all the time. I hate it. We have great internet and it still does it.

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I’d sell it and buy a reliable monitor. I would be devastated if my baby ever cried himself to sleep.

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