I can’t stand my boyfriends mom

As much as I want my babies grandma in her life, I just don’t like my bfs mom or his sister. My mom isn’t alive so there’s that. His mom and I don’t get along because she is a delulu and a narcissist. She has disrespected me a few times and I refuse to have her around my child if she can’t be cordial with me. I want my baby to have a grandma though 🥲 she’s just a really toxic person and we only let her in our lives when she found out we were pregnant, mind you my bf cut her off for almost 10 years bc she was a shitty mom. My baby’s one year birthday is coming up and I’m dreading inviting her. I shouldn’t be anxious about her party bc of her and i can’t stand that it’s taking a toll on me.

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Bringing a baby into the world is a great reason to RID yourself of toxic people. Not bring them back in. Don’t invite her if she’s ruining your enjoyment. If your enjoyment at her party is depleted, so will your baby’s enjoyment be depleted. I genuinely believe our babies moods and feelings resonates with moms at least 70% of the time.

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I couldn't stand my partner's mother either, and the times we saw her I dreaded. She passed last year and none of my kids really knew her so it meant nothing, and my mother is also a narcissist so I get it. You have to set your boundaries and keep toxic people away from your family, even if they too are family. Don't invite her, the party is about your little girl. If her grandmother is going to take away from that and ruin the energy, it's not even worth it IMO

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