Sister making me feel bad for being pregnant

I'm not excusing her actions but infertility is fucking brutal. I came off social media completely because I couldn't cope with pregnancy announcements when I started IVF. I burst into tears when my SIL told me she was pregnant. If my actual sister got pregnant during my IVF I think I would have really struggled. She's probably using up all her good graces on people she can't be rude to which leaves you with the shit end of the stick. She's behaving poorly for sure, but she is hurting and unbelievably jealous

@Aislinn thankyou , not in any way do I think its excusing her xx but has given me another way too look at it also . I felt selfish making this post but at the same time , I needed too because the stress was really starting to bother me xx hoping she comes around but just a waiting game x

@Aislinn sadly they won't do ivf until she's lost the weight which is around 10st if not a chunk more . . Hard that she waited until my announcement to get help . I just sincerely hope she hasn't waited too long tbh because my mums been telling her to go doctors for ages (5/6yrs) before she was even trying because of messed up periods which is pcos confirmed now x . I guess it hurts as I've kept most of my pregnancy at bay and 30 weeks now feels like I have no enjoyment to show for it for tryna keep her happy. The posts top it off for me / also shows no understanding. I expected more from my big sis but guess we can't have it all the way we want .x

Not infertility but my SIL jokingly told me she hopes I don’t have a baby before her once me and my partner got together as they have been trying for 3 years. Once she found out we’re expecting she hasn’t once asked how anything’s going with the pregnancy (I’m 28 weeks now) but have just found out through a family member that she’s due 2 months after us! She and my partners brother has told everyone but us.. I believe to think the bitterness got to them and they doesn’t want us to know. You just have to remember not everyone will be joyful x

@Bobbie my sisters been exactly the same . Except she's still trying . I guess what hurts the most is she won't be quiet and quite frankly will have people falling at her feet so I can and can't understand at the same time why she can't let me have my moment xx hers will come . Even if it means I have to be surrogate . She doesn't know I intend this just something I've spoken to my mum about x I'm asd so while I do understand points of views . Hearing different people's views to the scenario helps me understand alot more . X also don't know if brother in law is feeding stuff to her cos he got really possessive of me going to see My partner after we had a argument and he couldn't get the fact I wasn't gunna block him out whether we were together or not. Yes he cheated but he didn't cheat on baby qnd has never shown no violence or reason for me to suspend keeping in touch. All he did was cheat ... which I know some ppl say is that all . But too get blocked by your bil for that is a bit sad .

As hurting as your sister is, it’s not ok for her to be horrible to you and make you feel like you can’t talk about your pregnancy let alone celebrate it. This is really unfair on you.

She needs to take some responsibility for her own health. If she is serious about having a baby, she will listen to her doctor, lose weight. So many women have absolutely no options left, and she has. I would maybe sit her down and with love and empathy explain this to her. Don't hold back your happy moments and explain how you are feeling. She's gana be an aunt and it's such an amazing feeling when you meet your nephew/neice. Something you can both be excited about, and it might give her that push to move forward. X