I’m at a loss… Im a teacher and when I got pregnant I read all the conscious parenting/gentle parenting books. Now I’m follow all the social media accounts that discuss them. We have a 3 year old and a baby on the way. I try to follow that as much as possible and my 3 year old listens to and responds to me better than anyone. My husband however… just yells. That’s his go to move… yelling. At my son or at the dogs. And guess what? My son does not really like having him around. He constantly says “no daddy” or “happy when daddy work.” Which makes my husband feel bad…on the flip side when I try to help my husband do something different or tell him that his yelling is having a negative effect on his relationships with our son he gets so incredibly defensive. “Don’t say that! You’re not perfect. I have to yell because no one listens to me!”
I’ve tried sending him videos and podcasts on the psychology of gentle parenting. He tells me “he’s not interested in that stuff.”
Im about to have a second boy and I don’t want either of my sons to think yelling is how they should act. Im at a breaking point and I don’t know what to do.
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Oh I'm so sorry you are going through this. Are you on the gentle parenting Facebook groups? I know I've see several posts where people mention partners that aren't following it and there has been a lot of good advice. How is your relationship with your husband? Maybe going to couples counseling could help you communicate with him more effectively (read - him listen to you more effectively...) what do you do when your husband yells? From what I've been seeing, its really important to stand up for your child and model the response you would like husband to have and almost gentle parent your husband until it makes sense to him. Like "I can see you are stressed, maybe you need to step away and calm down. Yelling is not how we handle our anger in this house and me and *sons name* need to hold our boundary on this." Obviously it's super not ideal to go against your spouse in front of your child, but if talking to him about it privately is not working, maybe this would drive the point across.

Pray for your husband, the lord knows what your going through. I’m sorry for the situation but people can change with God. ✌🏻